Bowl-a-Thon Raises Money for 14-Year-Old's Abortion

bowlingThe National Network of Abortion Funds (NNAF) recently held a Bowl-a-Thon and raised over $400,000 for abortions. On its website, it highlighted the story of 14-year-old Darcy, who was given a “second chance” when she terminated her child’s life pregnancy with money provided by the group’s “George Tiller Memorial Fund.”

Reminder: George Tiller was the late-term abortion provider that was murdered by nut-job anarchist Scott Roeder in 2009.

Darcy didn’t want to tell her mom, but lives in a state with parental consent laws, so she did. The abortion was going to cost more than the rent, so they turned to NNAF to cover the cost. Darcy says, “Getting my abortion means I’m going to get a second chance. And I want to make it count.”

My heart breaks for this girl. Abortion doesn’t erase bad decisions; it just rips a hole in your heart and tears at your soul. It’s the dirty little secret that no one wants to talk about: You have to grieve the loss of your child and your own hand in it while pretending to the world (and yourself) that you’re empowered.

Abortion ends a life. How does that make anything better?

Statistics say that Darcy won’t take advantage of this “second chance” but will likely be back at the clinic for another abortion. Half of all abortions are performed on women that have had at least one previously. She’s also four times more likely to use drugs than if she’d carried her baby to term.

A teen pregnancy is not easy to deal with, but it can provide an incredible opportunity to show love and support to a young girl, and give her the chance to discover that she is capable of great things. Real empowerment doesn’t come by trying to pretend that a life never existed; it comes from giving the priceless gift of a child to someone that has waited years for one.

A girl that gives her baby up for adoption has a reason to live, to apply herself to her studies and make something of her life. Handing over her child to someone else to raise will likely be the most difficult thing she ever does in her life, but she will always have the deep satisfaction of knowing she gave the greatest gift that can be given – life.

Young ladies like Darcy should be rallied around, encouraged, protected, and celebrated for taking a crappy situation and making it into a beautiful celebration of life. Abortion doesn’t fix anything. It’s not a reset button. Life doesn’t have a reset button.


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Procr... Procrastamom

What the hell is this?  Jenny Erikson Day?  Did all the other (good) bloggers at The Stir quit?  Three articles in one day...way to make me lose my breakfast, lunch AND dinner.

nonmember avatar Lilianne

Her body, her choice. Just because abortion isn't something you would choose to do if in her situation, that doesn't mean it isn't the best choice for her.

Procr... Procrastamom

And 14 year-olds can't be counted on to make good decisions...that's why we treat them as children, that's why we attempt to educate them about sex, that's why we don't expect them to carry a child to term.  Thank goodness there's somebody out there looking out for the Darcy's of the world, ensuring that she will get a second chance in life. It is cruel to expect a child to raise a child.

SashN... SashNicole

Really? Reeealllly??

nonmember avatar EmmieEm

Calling BS on your stats and sources... and intelligence.

nonmember avatar Kate

A girl can realize that she is capable of great things by finishing high school, getting good grades, going to college, and getting a good job. NOT by having a baby at fourteen. Where is your logic coming from. Jenny?

Angel... AngelGirl1517

That's awesome!  What a fun way to raise money for an incredible cause!  I am very glad that such an organization exists to help young women (read: CHILDREN) when they need that kind of help.  Thanks for sharing, I know I'll sleep better tonight, knowing Darcy's life can hopefully now take a turn for the better. :)

shesl... shesliketx

i'm with the commenters above me. why is it okay that she doesnt get a life? she is a child. it seems the pro-lifers in their attempt to save an embryo or a fetus forget that so often the women/child going throught the abortion have other things going on in life. she is a child. she should not be having sex (the article omits if it was conception from assualt or consentual sex... not that it matters to me) and i'm guessing she has learned that by having to make such a tough choice. kudos to this organization. and may she have a wonderful productive childhood and life.

Eques... EquestrianMom

Uh, yeah, wow, I am so proud of this organization, and so ashamed of the tone of this article! 

 Lets reveiw my story, I was raped repeatedly by a boss from age 13 to 15, at which point I finally went to the police (because my mother refused to beleive me) I had two abortions in that time period. Was it a cure all? No. Did it fix my lifes issues? No. But it meant that as an unsupported 13yr old girl, I was not also a MOTHER. Which even I had at that time enough sense to understand was WRONG. And so I had abortions, and I mourned my loss, but knew (and still do) it was for the best. And I paid for it out of my OWN POCKET (thank god my raping boss paid me) and my best freinds mother posed as my mom, cause I sure as heck wasn't telling my mother. 

 So Go BOWLING! I hope I can attend one of these events. 

Fonder Fonder

I think it was a great thing it was her decision to make I support completely! To imply that adoption give her a reason to live say that you think people who have an abortion don't have a reason to live. She has every reason as a person to live and make the best choice for her. I had an abortion I don't regret it and it gave me the chance to join the military, go to college, meet my husband, and have the child I was meant to have at 25.

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