CafeMom's own Tracy Odell and her son got an opportunity this morning to chat with First Lady Michelle Obama, as part of "Take Your Sons and Daughters to Work Day." What followed was a frank discussion between moms, kids and Mrs. Obama about topics that included the Mommy Wars.
Tracy asked Mrs. Obama if she had experienced criticism in her experience as a working mom. Here's what she had to say:
All the things we fought for as women, we fought for a choice, being able to make the choice that was right for us.And we still have work to do, but we’ve come a long way. Women do have real choices about how they want their lives to go. And no one should give that up to anyone else, because it’s your choice and it changes. I mean, I have been a working mom. I have been a not working mom. But it’s been totally based on what I need in my life at any given point in time. And there will always be somebody who will criticize everything you do in your own lives.
What gives me a sense of calm is that I know that I have to figure out what works for me at any given time. And what I try to do is respect every woman’s decision about what they do for themselves at any given point in time. There just are no absolutes, and that’s what we fought for.
Unable to raise their children as they choose, they are the true victims of the stay-at-home/work-outside-the-home debate. I know plenty of women in this category and I feel for them most of all.