When most people hear I don't know how to swim, they assume I grew up in some landlocked town far from water and my parents never took me to a pool. They're wrong twice over: I grew up beside a river and spent summer after summer in swimming lessons. And yet, just like the heroic grandmother who died this week trying to rescue her 3-year-old granddaughter in the pool, I'm a major drowning risk.
The Woodbridge, California tragedy scares me today because that could be me. A woman and child are dead because of a nightmare that points out pool safety isn't just about little kids.
There are plenty of grown folks in America who don't know how or can't swim. There's me, who -- despite all those lessons and a childhood spent literally feet from one of America's major rivers -- is just so uncoordinated that I can't do it. There are people who grew up too poor for lessons and far from water. There are people with medical conditions and mental conditions ... And you can say, well then, those people shouldn't go near water, but tragedies like this prove it's not that simple.
Police say the little girl and grandmother were discovered by the employee of a lawn maintenance company, so they can only guess at what happened. Because there was a stroller in the pool, they're guessing the child fell in, and the grandmother jumped in after her to rescue her. Because Grandma couldn't swim herself, both, tragically, drowned.
But what choice would you have given her? She jumped in because that's what people do when there is a child in the pool -- whether they can swim or not. It's called being selfless and caring about a child in need. The tragic ending doesn't negate her heroism.
But heroism doesn't address how tragedies like this happen to begin with. I wasn't in the least bit surprised to find out there was no gate blocking access to the pool at the family's rental home. I live in a state where this is the law, and I can't tell you how many people have still skipped out on this simple life-saving option.
They complain that it costs too much or that "oh well, you know, I know how to swim and so do my kids."
OK, but why take the risk? You don't think you'll ever have someone else there? There will never be a reason to put safety measures in place? Never ever?
Let's be realistic for a second. Kids see water (and they don't see property lines) as fun without seeing the hazard. And if a kid goes into the water, guess who goes after them ...
How many people do you know who can't swim? How old are they?
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Comments 101
this is why im a firm believe on of those must needed things to learn growing up is water safty and how to swim ......such a sad story :(
guilty. Can't swim. My kids can, though. If we go to a pool party -- 1. I am usually the only adult that sits AT the side of the pool counting heads. and 2. I tell others that they will pull them out and I'll give them CPR. This is a tragic story.
I'm wondering why a 3 year old was left alone that long to wander out to the pool and fall or get in it without gma supervising that...i know accidents happen but i think this could have been avoided by more supervision or lock on the door so the child din't get out there in the first place...or like you said, a gate around the pool. Sad story and I'm not trying to be mean or whatever, it's just that I wonder about some more of the facts around this accidental drowning. Also, why was there a stroller in the pool? weird....
The odds are greatly in the favor of a child that does not live in the household drowning in the pool while visiting or when the gate is left open. My parents have a pool and my dad flips out if anyone leaves the gate open.
I really can't understand why people would leave non-swimmers unsupervised near a pool.
I can't swim. I grew up where two rivers meet, and spent most summers at my grandparent's lake house. I freak out in water, because I almost drowned in a pool when I was 4. I don't do water over my head, and just can't relax when I'm in it. But, I have jumped into a pool to save a child who's aunt wasn't watching him. (A friend of a friend at a party.) Thankfully, I'm tall and was able to touch bottom when I put my feet down. Believe me, as nerve-rattled as I was afterwards, that woman got a tongue-lashing. You cannot take for granted whether someone can or cannot swim. We should all try to keep an eye out for each other, especially when there's not a lifeguard on duty, or at someone's house. What about that little girl who drowned in someone's pool DURING a party? There were many adults around, and no one was watching her. Pool safety isn't something to mess around with.
I lived in Puerto Rico which is an island and now 23 still don't know how to swim, neither my children (2 girls.. 6 and 3) and my 7 month old boy. Only their dad knows and he tries to teach me and the girls but I, myself, get scared and just forget it even if its in a 5ft pool I still get scared. But I do want to learn cause you never know and one f my biggest fear is driving across a bridge and somehow, something happens and what's below us is water and we fall... someone has to take the kids out of their seats and out the car and out the water. Its just a fearful thought but like I said you never know.