There's nothing about what happened to Tyler Clementi that isn't completely horrible, as the current trial against Clementi's roommate Dharun Ravi reminds us. And even though she initially played a role in the event which led to Clementi's suicide, I'm pretty sure 19-year-old former Rutgers student Molly Wei knows exactly how horrible it was ... in fact, I'm pretty sure Wei will be haunted by that horror for the rest of her life.
Talk about a cautionary tale. Wei agreed to testify on behalf of the prosecution to avoid jail time (she also has to complete 300 hours of community service), and from the account she's given thus far it's clear the girl didn't have any idea that what she was doing with now-ex pal Ravi would lead to such a tragedy.
In fact, it doesn't seem like she even fully grasped what she was doing at all.
According to Wei's account, even though she helped Ravi set up her MacBook Pro and a remote video camera to spy on Clementi's dorm-room date with another man, she was shocked when the image of the two boys making out appeared onscreen. She says Ravi was surprised, too, and I'm sure he was -- but I'm also fairly sure that's exactly what he was expecting to see, otherwise he wouldn't have bothered to spy on his roommate when he asked for an evening of privacy.
Wei, on the other hand, who looks about as capable of telling a lie as a blueberry muffin, probably never imagined she and Ravi would actually catch Clementi in any kind of act. Her friend needed her help -- and the use of her computer. Taken at face value, the possibility that she might harm Clementi in some way most likely never crossed her mind. That's why when Clementi disappeared and the police told her he could have killed himself, she reacted with such sorrow.
“I was sad, overwhelmed. I felt very bad if anything had happened. I was just overwhelmed with emotions ... I just wanted to be with my parents."
What's sad is that Wei will always carry this tragedy with her. She will always bear the personal guilt of Clementi's loss and the public stigma of her involvement, however accidental.
My grandmother used to have a really bleak saying: "Do one stupid thing and it can screw up the rest of your life." I hope that's not the case with Wei. Just watch the girl speak:
Do you think Molly Wei knew she was participating in such a potentially hurtful prank?
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