Teen Mom Fatally Stabbed in Unbearable Tragedy Deserves Our Tears


crime scene tapeSome stories are so tragic, so unfathomably heartbreaking, I just don't know what to say. All I can really think to do is bury my head in my arms and cry. Unfortunately, I have to warn you: This is one of those stories.

This is the story of a 4-year-old girl in Washington who dialed 911 at 5 a.m. in the morning because her mommy was hurt (oh, but she wasn't just "hurt"). A 4-year-old girl who had the courage and presence of mind to watch someone fatally stab her mother, wait until that person was gone and then pick up the phone to call for help.

A 4-year-old girl who was truly a hero ... but her 18-year-old mom died anyway.

Laranda Konopaski was pronounced dead at Forks Community Hospital after being stabbed multiple times. The young mother's live-in boyfriend has been named as a suspect, but remains at large.

See what I mean? No sense can be made of a story like this. And there are far too many stories like this. Just the fact something this ugly could happen at all takes what little bit of hope or joy or belief in basic human kindness a person might have and destroys it. Not only that, it makes you feel like an idiot for having any hope to begin with. Like that soul-crushing Christmas Eve fire story, or the one about the little girl with the sick mom who was brutally murdered by a neighbor.


I know there's a got to be a better, more constructive way of processing this kind of news than locking yourself (and your children) in a dark closet where nothing bad can ever happen. The problem with that approach, of course, is that nothing good can ever happen either.

Part of me wonders, sometimes, why we tell these stories. Why we spread this kind of news. Would it be better to just let these nightmarish memories fade away in the hearts and minds of those immediately involved?

But then I realized: Anyone who goes through something like this, anyone who dies this way or watches a loved one die this way or suffers some similar fate deserves to be mourned by the world at large. That's the only thing we can really do, in the end, for people like Laranda Konopaski and her daughter.

How do you cope with tragic news stories like this one?


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ashja ashja

Pregnant at 14 and having her daughter living an a home with an abusive boyfriend (yes, there were past domestic calls to the address) Pretty much inevitable. It's bad enough when these babies have babies, but then they jump right back into the dating pool and move these men into a home with their kids...it rarely ends well...

nonmember avatar Fanny

I don't let stories of strangers doing "bring me to tears", cuz I'd be crying all day. The world is a messed up place, get used to it. I have a hard time believing you actually cry from reading this. My thoughts were "Thats effed up..."

vamom08 vamom08

This is very tragic she lost her life because of a man .I would have focus more of me raising my daughter then having a man stay in my home with me and my young child .

colin... colins_mom

I'm gonna hate myself for this later... It was the vampires (sorry twilight joke... Forks, WA ahh never mind...)

Yes it is sad that that little girl had to watch her mom die but sadly it bothers me more that it sounds like no one helped her mom out the way she needed.

MMbales MMbales

So sad. I hope the 4 year old has a good home to go to. As far as how I cope, I pray for those involved and then let it go because there is nothing I can do unless something like that is local.

hotic... hoticedcoffee

I agree with ashja.  What's really sad about this story is how predictable the outcome was.  Tragic.

nonmember avatar conservativemom

I think the REAL tragedy here was that the mom had a baby at 14! While a young woman being killed by her abusive boyfriend is tragic, it is all too common these days.

humbl... humble808

Its so tragic for this little hero, our hearts n prayers go out to her, for she has a very long road of healing ahead of her. I can't seem to understand how any human-being can do something like this, its so heart-breaking. Our deepest heart-felt condolences go out to this 4-year-old n alot of prayers to a blessful future, as well.

Mommy... Mommy2Tamara

I try to learn from their mistakes.  Those who's lives have become tragic.   It's extremely rare that something like this happens without a series of mistakes.  Every tragedy has a trail.  All we can do from afar is watch, listen and learn.  Hopefully we learn enough to teach our children right from wrong and what to watch out for so they themselves don't become victims of circumstance. blank stare

nonmember avatar Whitney

This mother was stabbed to death in front of her daughter, and you really think that her having been pregnant at 14 is the "real" tragedy? Are you kidding me? Teen pregnancy is unfortunate and sad, but it is not the "real" tragedy compared to the brutal killing of a mother in front of her child. My mother was 14 when she had my sister, and 17 when she had me. I don't deny for a minute that her choices were irresponsible and a means for a difficult future, but I wouldn't call it tragic- especially compared to the violence and decay that goes on in this world.
How ignorant.

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