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Conservatism & Motherhood: A Mommy State, Not a Nanny State

by Lori Ziganto on December 12, 2011 at 4:31 PM

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Lori Ziganto & Daughter Gracie
On my Sweet Sixteen birthday, my daddy bought me the super fancy hard-cover of George Will's book The Morning After. My mother, endearingly dubbed Daft Scottish Mom, listened to Rush Limbaugh daily and often proclaimed, "Och, my wee Rush! He's nae daft, that one." Suffice it to say, I've been a Conservative for quite a spell. But it wasn't until I became a mama that I fully grasped the importance of Conservatism and what it truly means, in practice not just in theory.

I realized that not only are Conservative ideals best for the country, but they are particularly good for women and their children. We need less Nanny State and more Mommy State (without the incessant laundry. Someone needs to hurry up and invent laundry that folds and puts itself away. Kindly arrange.). Mamas nurture not with the intention of taking care of you forever, but in a way that teaches you and enables you to succeed, or fail, on your own.

A Nanny is paid for by someone else to make you feel protected and policed, often protecting you from yourself. A mommy fights for you and protects you, but she does it by teaching you how to protect and take care of yourself. You need a mommy, not a nanny, to teach you personal responsibility and how to solve problems on your own for a lifetime.

This is why we are seeing more Conservative women moving to the forefront. Not as perpetual victims railing against The Patriarchy (tm), but as fighters and leaders who embody my personal motto -- walk softly, but carry a big lipstick. See, we dames have learned by living, often in our awesome small towns, none of which are bitter in my experience. We manage budgets that are often super tight. We make it work by cutting out things that aren't cost-efficient, sacrificing non-necessities, and by using the free market to shop at Costco or Walmart and not fancy pants Whole Foods. We do not do it by whining about needing more nor by coveting the earnings of others.

Conservatism also enables women to embrace motherhood, not regard it as a punishment. Conservatives know that motherhood does not diminish a woman and it is not detrimental to her career or aspirations. Rather, it strengthens her and is an attribute in and of itself. After becoming a mother, my pro-life convictions were further strengthened and it is Conservatives who value life. Because of this, they value women. The real 'War on Women' is perpetrated by the pro-abortion Left. See, if you devalue and diminish the life of unborn children, then you also devalue the life bearers.

I do not want my daughter to grow up sneered at as a gender traitor for not toeing the faux feminist line because she dares to be pro-life. I don't want my own President to teach my daughter that her value and her rights are predicated on her legal ability to kill her own unborn children. And I don't want her growing up to be taught that women are perpetual victims in need of a Nanny State Government to save them.

I want to teach her to love freedom and how to hold onto it tightly. There! Mommy made it all better.

 

Filed Under: abortion, feminism, politics

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  • badha...
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    badhairday100

    December 12, 2011 at 4:37 PM

    I'm sorry but this feels like a stretch. If you're trying to suggest that the people of this country are the children and the politicians are the parents, I think you have the wrong Idea about Democracy. In my family, the children didn't get together and pick their parents and then complain when the parents didn't do exactly what they wanted. The President isn't in charge of teaching your daughter anything. You are. Please don't teach her whatever that was, because the two things couldnt be any more different. 


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    Samantha Wortham

    December 12, 2011 at 4:43 PM

    Ugh, i don't even know where to begin with this article. Don't you think you are de-valuing women by assuming you know what is best for all of them? Also, don't you think YOU are perpetuating a "nanny state" by trying to monitor what other women do with their womb? It's logic, you should try it sometime. Oh, and I don't think anyone is "pro-abortion". The fact that you even stated that shows you are ignorant.


  • mommix4
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    mommix4

    December 12, 2011 at 4:44 PM
    Completely agree with your post! Thank you
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    Jessica Perry

    December 12, 2011 at 4:44 PM

    badhairday - I think you missed the point.  There is a growing number of people in this country looking to government to provide for them - to feed them, to house them, to pay them.  This stems from so called "helicopter parents" who swoop in and do everything FOR their kids (nanny state) instead of teaching them to do for THEMSELVES (mommy state). This has nothing to do with the President. 


  • mom2m...
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    mom2monsterboys

    December 12, 2011 at 4:45 PM
    How did this turn into a pro-life/pro-choice post? What a weird blog post.
  • amari...
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    amarie951

    December 12, 2011 at 4:47 PM

    Wow, you are an idiot. Abortion rights in NO WAY place the value of a woman on whether or not they choose to have one, but acknowledge that  they as a woman are entitled to the right be responsible for ANY decision regarding their own bodies. So because you shop at costco and can manage a budget that makes you a better mother and person than someone who maybe shops at costco AND whole foods? Since when does being liberal mean that motherhood is regarded as a punishment? Ugh... 


  • Kritika
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    Kritika

    December 12, 2011 at 4:48 PM

    Coming from a conservative : Lori, please stfu. Thanks.


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    Samantha Wortham

    December 12, 2011 at 4:48 PM

    Yea, mom2monsterboys. I was openen minded to this post until she equated the abortion issue with how good of a parent you are and how much you care about kids/women. WTH?


  • hotic...
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    hoticedcoffee

    December 12, 2011 at 4:51 PM

    Oh, Lori Ziganto...you're making me swoon! This: if you devalue and diminish the life of unborn children, then you also devalue the life bearers. - very compelling!


  • ashjo85
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    ashjo85

    December 12, 2011 at 5:00 PM

    This is going to be fun!


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