Former Penn State football coach Jerry Sandusky has been accused so many times of abusing children at this point that it's hard to deny he looks guilty. In this country, we have the "innocent until proven guilty" rule and it's in place for a reason. Still, if it looks like a dog and it barks like a dog, then chances are, it's a dog. But not if you ask Dorothy Sandusky.
Dottie Sandusky, the wife of disgraced coach Jerry, is denying all of the accusations made against her and her husband, including claims from the newest accusers that they were abused in his home and screamed for help knowing his wife was upstairs and she never came down to help him.
Now she is calling them all liars. In a statement to CNN, Dottie Sandusky said:
No child who ever visited our home was ever forced to stay in our basement and fed there. We would never do anything to hurt them. We don't know why these young men have made these false accusations, but we want everyone to know they are untrue.
Her husband faces more than 50 charges surrounding a child sex abuse scandal that allegedly spanned more than 15 years, and whether she believes them or not, most of the public does believe them. Would so many people really lie about this? What could possibly be the motive?
What Dottie Sandusky is doing is wrong. She is accusing these young people (and some of Sandusky's colleagues) of being liars. The fact is, many victims of sexual abuse and rape don't come forward precisely for these reasons.
If she feels the need to stand by her man, who could blame her? If she came forward and said he did those things, then she would look just as guilty standing by him all those years. If she knew and did nothing, then she is just as sick. The fact is, the human capacity to deny even the obvious things standing right in front of our faces is really quite astounding.
Personally, I have seen people deny that their marriages are bad (even when it's obvious), deny that they are overweight (even when the scale says otherwise), and generally say things aren't true when the reality is staring them right in the face. This is so much bigger, so much more incomprehensible than those things that it's easy to see how a person could force themselves not to see the truth. The truth is simply impossible to fathom.
Still, I shed no tears for Dottie Sandusky and neither should anyone else. Denial may be human, but it's weak and something that only weak-willed people use as a crutch. She is just as guilty as her husband if she is hiding what she knows to be true and only marginally less so if she is simply in denial.
Do you think Dottie Sandusky is lying or just in denial?