Dad Who Blogs About ‘Psycho Ex Wife’ Doesn’t Deserve His Kids

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bloggingYou'd think the Internet was invented yesterday with the way a dad blogger who runs The Psycho Ex Wife is going on and on in the news. Anthony Morelli has been ordered by a judge to make a choice: the website detailing his divorce and custody battle or his two kids. And he still thinks he can have them both.

After being ordered to shut The Psycho Ex Wife down (technically, he has, but you can still access plenty of content), Morelli has mounted a counterclaim in court. He says his First Amendment rights to be a disgruntled ex-husband and blog about it have been violated, and his new site Save The Psycho Ex Wife asks for donations from the hundreds of thousands of readers he's had visit the site since he started it in 2007 to keep it running. Of course he wants the site, and to continue sharing custody of his sons, ages 10 and 12, too.

Morelli is within his rights to complain to the court. He may even be right about the freedom of speech. But all it takes is one look at his new website to question whether this guy has any grasp on what it takes to be a custodial parent:

The existence of the website, in and of itself, has no affect on his children. It would forever remain so, provided both parents monitor the children’s computer usage as any good parent should.

Won't affect the kids? Ever? Who does he think he is? Superman who can appear at the exact moment his kids log online, at any point in the future, from anywhere? It's 2011, buddy, welcome to the world of the plugged in kid.

The average 10- and 12-year-old kids have access to computers at school, at camp, at a friend's house. All it takes is a little Googling, and they could easily run across a site that describes their mother as "Jabba the Hut, with less personality." This coming from the man who supposedly loved her once, half of your gene pool. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out how a kid would take that kind of vicious name-calling.

And, of course, since it's a description of Morelli's custody battle, the kids themselves make their appearances: in the very same graph where he references the loathsome Star Wars character, he alleges his ex-wife "stuff[s] the children with fast food." Now imagine one of their school buddies reading that and making fun of them, mimicking chipmunk cheeks and a face full of French fries. Suuuuuure, those kids aren't in the least bit affected.

Even supposing Morelli and his ex both managed to keep the kids offline for the foreseeable future (snort), one day they will grow up. And as so many blogging parents have found out, what goes online stays online. It's not as simple as taking down your own website anymore. There are thousands of web harvesters or web scrapers out there, programs that grab copy off of websites and repurpose it for their own use (often without permission, but they're hard to catch and even harder to take down). There are bloggers and reporters who follow the legal route, mining someone's online content for use in a story. Once it's there, it's there to stay.

Divorcing sucks. There's no way around that. But part of being a parent, a GOOD parent, is putting the needs of your children ahead of your own emotional desire to tear your ex a new one in the most public of ways.

Do you think Morelli deserves to keep his kids AND his website?

 

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momto... momtolittleg

Seems like his priorities are a bit out of whack.  Hmm, bitch about my ex-wife, or take care of my kids, hmmm?  Maybe she is psycho, but he has issues with wanting to pimp that opinion out on the internet.  Of course, now that this has made the news, there's no WAY the kids will avoid hearing about it.

Melis... Melissa042807

Dude needs to grow the hell up. Anyone with half a brain knows that if you want to get your kids through the divorce/custody process as healthily as possible, one of the things you MUST refrain from is publicly bad-mouthing their other parent. This guy is nothing but 100% selfish.

nonmember avatar lexi

I actually think that the man is obviously entitled to have his own opinions & share them with the world. Despite the immature nature of the comments, if they're not libelous or slanderous, they're not illegal.

HOWEVER, it is the judge's responsibility to ensure a safe, supportive environment and if he/she feels that the obvious anger & hostility demonstrated in the blog are bad for the children, then he/she is right to restrict the father's access to the children.

nonmember avatar me

I agree with Lexi. He has the right to have the blog. But the kids have the right to not see it. I think he has the right to have the blog more though. I wonder if the tone on here would be any different if the ex wife was writing a blog about her dumb ex husband.

tecsa... tecsabates

I agree that he is entitled to have his opinion. He should be entitled to share anything he wants to about his own life..Granted he should find a more mature way of behaving, but lets be honest.  Women badmouth and bash their exes all the time online  in blogs, facebook, twitter, etc. If this was a woman with a blog called Psycho ex husband, people would hardly look twice, shaking their heads and sighing"ah, woman scorned..."

shine... shineyllamatues

I don't think he should see his kids. That's their mother you are talking shit about. The best thing you can do for your kids when you are no longer with their other parent is be that parents friend. Get along. You got along enough to make the kid so keep that going. Uggg.

Anast... Anastazia975

I really wish bloggers would put out more than just their spin on a story. It's not just his divorce on that site. It is many divorces. It is also about his ex wife calling(that was on the site) when she was so drunk =, threatening great bodily harm. There is so much more to this story than what you have said. And I think you do a disservice to people by not telling the whole story. Even the kids own mother has admitted that she  had made his life a living hell. Calling CPS, the kids being removed from BOTH parents for a time. Her unwillingness to get help for her alcoholism. The list goes on and on. This is a man that was reaching out to other people in similar situations. Not unlike a mom blog. I'm willing to bet had a mom created a "Psycho ex husband" blog, most of you would applaud. I don't fully agree with everything he did, but, I also don't think he should lose the right to be with his kids. And I fail to see how keeping those children with someone that constantly relapses is healthy either.

nonmember avatar Matt

Seriously tho... Being a single dad with a crazy Ex is horrific! I came home from war and she was 3 months pregnant. (Not mine) I have had to spend 30,000 in legal fees and numerous bombardments of her drunken calls just to get 50/50 custody where I still have to pay child support and alimony. The system is lopsided and this man is being punished because he is rocking the boat. Haven't we learned from Casey Anthony? Not all moms are the best solution. Some just use the kids as a business. Rock away brother I'm behind you!!

Robin Hilliker

@anastazia975 it happens all the time i can tell you from experience the mother will win. Even when my mother had no job and had  Myself and two of my siblings living out of a station-wagon with her and was on more pscy meds then she could keep track of the court still thought we were better off with her then with our father who had a job and a house for us to live in even when we were living off one meal a day on the days we had no school witch was normally something like a hotpocket and a soda they and she had us living with a man who was beating and molesting me and our guardian ad litem was recommending we be place with our father the judge still thought we were better off with our mother simply because she was our mother 

Bob Warner

I know what he is going through . i went through a divorce a year ago. after seh helped spend my money i wasent goog enough anymore. SO GO FOR IT. there is so many women that all they want is your money.

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