I Am Not My Piles: Week 2 Progress

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Photo by Cafe Sheri

Here's my Week 2 check-in regarding my plan to find joy in a more balanced life. I hope you'll share your progress as well. If you're new here, you can join anytime!

I should warn you though. This past week wasn't quite as inspiring as the last.


Thoughts on Week 2:

Well, I'm trying not to get discouraged by a less than inspirational week in the household department (scroll to the bottom for progress on my goals). Real life after the dreamy holiday cleanup has definitely arrived.

Part of my feeling balanced really depends on my keeping an orderly household — since I eat, sleep, and work here. While I've kept the pile clear on the kitchen counter, other piles and messes are creeping in. However, I must focus on the progress. Continued bed making! Putting laundry away immediately after folding! Doing my day's dishes *before* dinner! And these were not even part of my goals. They just feel good.

On the other hand, I am currently ignoring the fact that the vacuum cleaner has been out for 24 hours now. I used it to vacuum up a small mess and haven't put it away — because I am so aware that the rest of the house could use a good vacuuming. The darn thing is just a source of guilt and irritation now. Maybe I'll just go put it away. Or even better, maybe I should just go vacuum for five minutes.

Joy Resource of the Week

I keep going back to important words from artist Penelope Dullaghan I read this week on this joy+ride (an inspiration website I co-edit). Penny shares the notion that you don't have to ride each passing "show" in and around your life. That you can simply be a witness. Wow! I can apply these words to so many angles of my life.

In terms of my household, just because there are a few piles of crap around here doesn't mean my life is a pile of crap. And it certainly doesn't mean my whole existence is a pile of crap. Just because there are a few piles doesn't mean I can't simply see them and pick them up rather than fall into them. In other words, I don't have to give into the overwhelm that may build when life happens. I can, instead, be who I am and who I need to be and simply file my piles away as soon as there is time to do so. It doesn't have to be a gigantic ordeal.

My piles and clutter are not who I am. They simply are passing, often temporary, evidence of a well-lived life.

Go forth and seek joy, my friends! And let me know how it's going.

How is your joy progress going? What's working and what isn't?

Related posts:

Find Joy in a More Balanced Life: Join Me!

The Plan: Find Joy in a More Balanced Life

Good Habits Beget Good Habits: Week 1 Progress


Cafe Sheri's Week 2 Progress:

My progress on this month's goals. It's pretty clear now which goals are going to take and which are not. I am already thinking about next month's goals.

Marriage: Sign up for preschool's monthly Parents Night Out. (Completed!)

Kids: Sit one-on-one with each child for 15 uninterrupted minutes 2x a week.

  • Progress: I built a Lego ship with my 7-year old. And while I spent A LOT of time with my 3-year old (we're potty training), I haven't done any sort of one-on-one with him. Don't gasp or feel pity. You might make me cry.
  • Bright side: On the MLK holiday, I built the boys a fort and later made them hot nutmeg milk and we drank them in front of the fire together. We also made some progress on a chapter book we're *slowly* reading.

Personal Interests: Go on one photo-taking outing a month. 

  • Progress: I STILL haven't done this, and I STILL really want to.
  • Bright side: I must make it happen, despite the work and family busy-ness and the rainy weather.

Work: Shower and/or get dressed to leave the house at the beginning of every work day. 

  • Progress: Continued success!
  • Joy-o-Meter: This continues to feel good and worthwhile.

Household: File, recycle, or trash "the stack" on the kitchen counter once a week.

  • Progress: Continued success!
  • Joy-o-Meter: Still great!
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