I'm Afraid Getting a Dog Will Ruin My Life

Havanese puppy

After years of insisting there was no way in hell I was ever going to get a pet because, duh, they're kind of a lot of work -- I finally broke down and agreed now is the "right time" to add a dog to our family.

Our 7-year-old son really, really wants one. Both my husband and I agreed that we can't imagine him growing up without a beloved pooch.

And so we did our research, scoped out a bunch of different breeds and reputable breeders, and started getting ridiculously excited about the new little pup who is going to enter our lives. We were all, "Yay! We're getting a dog!"

We decided on a Havanese, and a couple weeks ago, I put a non-refundable deposit down on a puppy who is supposed to come home with us in January. (OMG.)


And now all of a sudden that it's a (sort of) done deal? I've shifted my mentality a bit.

Now it's more along the lines of, "Holy shit, we're getting a dog -- what the hell are we thinking?!? We SO aren't ready for this!"

Here's the thing ... even though this is going to be the family pet, we all know who's going to be dealing with it 99 to 100 percent of the time. That's right -- ME. (I'm the mom.)

And while I love the idea of adding a new member to the family and doing all sorts of fun doggie things together -- all I keep hearing from friends is how tough and sometimes terrible having a dog is and how my life is totally going to change. (What a buzz kill.)

Seriously, I'm not kidding. Every time I tell someone this puppy is coming, I get one of the following reactions:

"Are you nuts? (Throws head back in fits of laughter.) Good luck with THAT!"

"Oh, Mary -- you have no idea what you're getting yourself into."

"OMG. DON'T DO IT. Dogs are such a PAIN IN THE ASS."

"NO YOU'RE NOT! I mean ... it'll be fine."

"Ugh. It's going to suck for the first couple of months. But then it gets better."

Ok, so I can kind of live with that last reaction. In my head, I know it's the most honest and closest to the real picture.

But because all I'm hearing is mostly negative stuff, I'm starting to second guess our decision and I'm wondering if we made a really bad call. I know a dog is going to be an adjustment -- but I'm kind of cool with our lifestyle right now. I figured a dog would just blend right into it without changing it too terribly much. (It's not like it's a baby, for God's sake. It poops outside. Most of the time. )

So now I keep going back and forth over whether or not to just pull the plug on this whole deal. I want the dog. And I know I'm gonna fall in love with the dog. But if what everyone is telling me is true, I'm gonna bitch and moan about how hard having a dog is after we get the dog. And then I might regret it a little bit, which will drive me nuts since everyone tried to warn me. And the guilt over not being able to deal with the dog will be too much to bear.

Ugh. But they're SO darn adorable. Just look at how cute that little fluff-head is!

Sigh. What the heck am I supposed to do?

Do you have a dog, and would you advise me to get one?


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