Living in a New House Makes Me Wish I Had an Older One

Rant 21

new houseSigh. I know I really need to take a deep breath and settle down and appreciate my home for what it is, but I just can't seem to get the fantasy of moving out of my head. Ok, so not the physical aspect of moving -- but the finding a different house in a different town part sounds so appealing and fun.

We've been in our current home for six years, and one of the reasons we chose it is because it was brand spanking new when we bought it. (In this photo, it wasn't even quite done yet, hence the port-a-potty to the left of the driveway.)

It has all the bells and whistles and is energy efficient and all that good stuff that most new houses are, but there's something it's noticeably lacking -- hence my desire to pick up and move again.

It's missing all of the charm and character that goes along with residing in an older home, and that's probably why I can't help but feel a little jealous of my friends who live in old, broken-in houses.

There's something to be said for living in a place that others before you have called home too -- almost like there's an energy trapped in the walls (in a very non-paranormal way) that makes the home feel more cozy, warm, and inviting.

And then there are the little touches, like gorgeous archways, detailed crown molding, built-in corner cupboards, and stairway handrails that look like a piece of artwork.

Those are the types of things that make homes different and unique, and as much as I really do love my house -- it kind of looks like every other house in my neighborhood. Aside from a floor-to-ceiling stone fireplace, which is really beautiful, if I didn't know I was in my house, I might as well be in any other house on my street.

However, something tells me if I did have an older house full of whimsy and charm, I'd probably bitch and moan about how dated everything was and find myself regularly perusing online real estate listings in the hopes of finding something fresh and new that no one had ever lived in before -- like the house I have now.

And I'm sure I'd get all bent out shape whenever anything leaked, broke, or didn't work correctly, which would make me wish for a new pad as well.

Huh. Maybe I need some sort of 12-step program or something. At the rate I'm going, I'll never be completely happy with any house I'm living in.

Is your house new or old? Are you happy in it?


Image via Mary Fischer

home life, moving, real estate


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douxm... douxmusique

I totally get it. We bought a brand new house and relocated within two years, to an older rental. I totally love the rental. It's in a cookie cutter subdivision but it's settled in and the yard is mature and the things I'd use to gripe about are pretty charming now. I don't think I'll ever want to buy new again. And we are taking our sweet time finding the perfect forever house next time.

Rootbear Rootbear

My boyfriend and I are renovating an old (80+?) house right now. I can honestly say that I don't think I would EVER buy an old house again unless it was in pristine condition and needed absolutely no work. Everything looks so nice and charming, but behind those (possibly cracking) plaster walls are things you can't even imagine. 

jkm89 jkm89

Good Lord...

nonmember avatar evmomie

why not renovate and add little details that will make your house more unique? also decorating could help, just new drapes/bedding can do a lot

Lovin... LovinJerseyMama

I won't even get into detail about how unappreciative this article sounds....

nonmember avatar NoWay

Oh, talk about looking a gift horse in the mouth. Of all the things to complain about! I have my family cramped into a very small two bedroom apartment. The landlord is a convicted murderer. How's that for charm? Want to trade with me? Jeez!

nonmember avatar Beth

I'm with you jersey mom. Very unappreciative! I wish I had ur problem Mary. We rent a small apartment because we cannot afford to buy, but we are happy. Thanks for rubbing ur insignificant problem in our faces.

Shandi80 Shandi80

Wow, do you realize how many people would love to live in a house like yours? Or even, a house at all?

nonmember avatar Wow...

All I could think reading this was "Gosh, I'd love to have a home old or new/ a yard for my babies to play in/ all the bells and whistles" but unfortunately here I sit in our small apartment (which I still appreciate), chipping away at my debt, desperately trying to repair my credit, hoping to save enough money some day for a forever home for my family. Goodness! Count your blessings!

SuzyB... SuzyBarno

Champagne problems... I'd kill for a brand new house.

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