An Open Letter to My Dog (Who I Now Ignore Because I Have a Baby)

nicole fabian-weber
Dear Onion,

Hey buddy. How you doin'? I like your haircut. I know I used to be against bandanas after a trip to the groomer, but I'll make an exception this time. One, because it's cute with the little doggies on it (very meta). And two, because -- well, I just don't care about your personal style as much as I once did.

You can say it; it's true. After having a (real) baby, I've become a deadbeat dog mom.

They tried to warn me, but I didn't listen. I even swore to you during the very last weeks of my pregnancy that it wouldn't happen. And I didn't think it would! I thought I'd be different. I thought we were different. Remember when I was decorating your sister's nursery and I put you in the crib and took pictures and texted them them to people? That seems like another life. I never take photos of you anymore. It's all baby, all the time. (But to be totally forthcoming, this bandana's upped the ante a bit.)

You secretly hate me a little bit lately. I know it. Your eyes that were once limpid pools have recently taken on a resemblance to Macaulay Culkin's in The Good Son. And what's more unsettling is, on occasion, your displeasure with me appears to be turning into apathy -- and I don't like that. Everybody knows the opposite of love is apathy, not hate. I don't like it when you bark (and bark and bark and bark and bark) at me when I'm on the floor playing with your sister, or when you disobey me and sit on those nice, clean Aden + Anais swaddling blankets we're laying on, but there's something slightly (slightly) comforting about you doing those things. Like, I know you're okay.

I pretty much step over you when I come home now, too. Sorry about that. You don't know this, but I used to text the dogwalker when I was at work sometimes to see how you were doing. Now I don't even think of you when I'm out of the house! (I probably shouldn't be telling you this, but I'm on a roll here -- this is cathartic, don't you think?) When I walk in the door, I just want to (pee and then) get to your sister. She needs me more than you do right now. You had three blissful years of undivided attention with your father and me. It's her turn now. I know you don't like this reality, but can you at least understand it?

Your walks are abbreviated too now. I apologize. Unless of course we're walking with your sister, in which case they're longer and more leisurely than ever before. So ... there's that?

Look, buddy. I still love you. I know I don't show it much these days, but you've gotta trust me: I do. And while we're getting everything out in the open, I just want to say -- please don't get mad at your sister for this. It's not her fault everyone's obsessed with her. It's mine and your father's. For creating something so cute. Oh, and I know I've never said anything to you before, but I really do appreciate your remaining docile when she "pets" you via pulling your fur. Way to be a team player.

I don't say it often, but you're a good boy, Onion. I could do without the blood-curdling yapping every time the doorbell rings, but nonetheless, you're a good boy. And no matter what, you'll always be my first "baby."

Love, Mom (if you'll still call me that)

Did your pet take a back seat after having a baby?

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Shandi80 Shandi80

I know this was intended to be humourous or maybe even therapuetic for you, but it actually made me a little sad. Poor pup. Take him for a walk or something. Get him a bone. Pet him. I feel bad for your doggy. :( 

nonmember avatar crystalmp

I'm not even a dog person and this still makes me sad. Poor doggy :(

Goobi... Goobieville

I agree with Shandi80

fave82 fave82

Im with the author on this. My dog and cat totally take a backseat nowadays.

MsRkg MsRkg

Aww your poor doggy. He is in some need of extra spoiling. My two dogs are my fur-babies, I could never neglect them or push them aside.

hello... hellokd87

I completely agree with Shandi. It's kind of funny though, at work every time a co-worker takes their newborn to work all the ladies swoon and the men are crowded around as well to "marvel" at the new creature. I'm not one of those people, but I've never been. Yet if someone were to bring a puppy I'd probably sound just a ridiculous with the baby talk. Animals (dogs in particular) hold a special place in my heart because they're usually the last ones people think of. And to me, that's wrong. They are just as deserving if not more of our love & attention. No matter how many times I've yelled at my adorable husky/wolf for nearly knocking me over, he always welcomes me with a wagging tail and endless kisses (which has led to less yelling and more reprimanding rather). I realized that he gets hyper just because he's so excited to see me. And I"m sure Onion's blood-curdling yapping is just because he feels he's protecting his family. Animals (domestic pets rather) are loyal creatures. They're with you until the end.

venus... venus.and.mars

I know this full well... My dog was the love of our lives and we never did anything without her. Now our baby is four months and Venus doesnt come everywhere like she use to just places where i know i can handle both the dog and the baby (FIFO mum) but we still go for walks a few times a week including the dog beach at least once. 

But unfortunatly the dog will never be a human child and need much more care and devotion. 

We still love her very much, curl up on the couch together and treat her and walk her but things are never going to be as they were. 

Maevelyn Maevelyn

Poor baby! he'll get you back when he starts favoring his sister over you . Oh you'll have time for him when she's older but who's bed will he be sleeping on? On who's lap will he watch whatever dribble has caught her attention? Baby sisters and it will hurt but you can't be mad at him, not really. It's your fault and his father's for making something so cute. But seriously let him lay on the blankets if the worst thing that ever happens is a dirty blanket it's worth a strong doggy/baby bond. 

CPN322 CPN322

Guys, she just had her baby recently. Give her a break. The dog will be fine. I thought this was a cute letter. I'm sure there will be more time for everyone soon. (and this is coming from a crazy cat lady who is obsessed with her fury children)

nonmember avatar blh

Lol all you people are ate up. Its a dog, it'll be fine. A person should care about their children more than their pets and obviously a baby needs more care than a dog. She's not neglecting the dog or being mean to it, sheesh.

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