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Should You Make Your Guests Take Off Their Shoes? (VIDEO)

by Amy Kuras on July 15, 2012 at 1:01 PM

Right up there with breastfeeding, circumcision, and politics is this hot button issue: Shoes in the house or no?

Personally, I'm a "shoes are OK" kind of person. I understand it keeps your house cleaner to not wear them, and my family generally ditches shoes indoors. But when people come to my house, I want them to be comfortable, and if that means keeping their shoes on, they can go right on ahead.

To my great surprise, JoAnn from Bensonhurst agrees with me. In this latest episode of her show, she tackles all kinds of cleaning questions from viewers, including the shoe question. Check out what she has to say in the video, after the jump. 

To illustrate her point: "I'll never, ever forget the first time I met my in-laws. There I was, a nice 20-something from a nice family who just so happened to allow the wearing of shoes indoors, meeting my very promising boyfriend's parents for the first time. And upon meeting me, instead of 'It's so nice to meet you, our son has been telling us a lot about you' or even 'Hi,' the very first words my future MIL spoke to me was to bark 'SHOES OFF' when I walked through the door. Sigh."

I'm with JoAnn. You can clean when they leave -- let your guests be comfortable.  If it's wet or muddy outside, or if I'd been tromping around their garden, I would certainly ask if someone preferred I ditch my shoes. To me, wearing slippers, stocking feet or going barefoot are for close family and intimate friends; padding around someone's house in your socks is like showing up in your bathrobe. Do what you want for your family, but let guests keep their feet covered! Listen to JoAnn, people:

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  • Nice
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    Nice

    July 15, 2012 at 1:20 PM
    Well barking "SHOES OFF" certainly isn't going to make you any friends. And since I've always lived in rentals and figured the carpet wasn't to my standards anyway, I've let it slide. Now I have only hardwood floors so it's no biggie for me to steam mop.
    BUT if I owned my house and had brand new carpet, I absolutely would have no problem telling guests "would you mind removing your shoes" and anytime I visit someone I go ahead and ask, "would you like me to remove my shoes?" I think that is the polite thing to do, so it doesn't put your host in an awkward position. Shoes are disgusting and especially with small kids I understand wanting to keep the floors clean.
  • MIA0223
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    MIA0223

    July 15, 2012 at 1:22 PM
    Yes.
    For religious reasons.
    I pray anywhere in my home, so it has to be kept clean. Shoes drag in all kinds of stuff! So shoes come off at the door!
  • JAFE
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    JAFE

    July 15, 2012 at 1:32 PM

    I don't want someone who was in the Walmart bathroom to be walking through my house with those shoes on. I think wearing your shoes in the house when you've walked in some icky places is just gross. I wouldn't ask someone to take theirs off but it grosses me out big time and it's hard not to think about it. It's a huge pet peeve.


  • Rosaline
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    Rosaline

    July 15, 2012 at 1:37 PM
    Yes. In my culture and many Asian countries, it's very rude to wear your shoes into someone's home. Most of my guest who are NOT Asian will actually ask us and respect our culture's custom by accommodating our culture's practice. I remember a lot of traditional "future parent-in-laws" will actually refuse to accept the girlfriend/boyfriend based on their manners or lack of manners. If you visit someone's home and see shoes lined up in front or near the front door, it's a good idea to ask the host if it okay to wear shoes inside their home. Some people can get very offended.
  • Scott...
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    Scott Davis

    July 15, 2012 at 1:37 PM

    I work in the HVAC industry and I'm in and out of peoples houses everyday. If I get a foot injury while I'm in a house and I didn't have my shoes on, workmen's comp. will not cover the injury. So I supply shoe covers to all my employees that way the house stays clean or in some cases, my employees shoes keep clean. I even wear them at home if I'm only going in for a minute. www.shubee.com 


  • Trans
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    Trans

    July 15, 2012 at 1:59 PM

    Different people will have different opinion on this topic. I think  this should be left on our guest, If they feel the need to wear off the shoes it's ok but if they just enter without giving a care to wear them off you can't just tell them to do so as it sounds really rude in my view. Seems more of like an order. I would definitly feel happy if the guests themselves wear the shoes off when they enter but i would never request them unless their shoes are really dirty like when someone comes suddenly in after a rain or some muddy place or so. It's always a good thing when guest themselves feel the need to wear off their shoes like it happens in Asian countries where its almost like a traditional culture to do so.


  • Sarah
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    Sarah

    July 15, 2012 at 2:15 PM
    Just because you are having guests over doesn't mean you can't expect them to be respectful. I always take my shoes off when I go into someone's house. It is one of my biggest pet peeves when someone goes into someone else's house and doesn't take their shoes off (obviously if there is a "workman" there then it doesn't apply as they need to be wearing shoes) I have no idea why it bothers me so much, I wasn't even raised this way. My parents always wear shoes indoors.
  • starl...
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    starlight1968

    July 15, 2012 at 2:16 PM

    lordy, if you have floor issues then don't have guests...sigh... When I get dressed that includes shoes... I don't know what YOU"VE done on your floors so pardon me if I wear my shoes to protect MY feet...  I have a dog/cat so what comes in on shoes isn't any different then what they bring in.  Clean your floors sheesh ...you do it anyways...


  • kaerae
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    kaerae

    July 15, 2012 at 2:19 PM
    family=shoes off. guests=whatever they prefer, they're guests in my home.
  • Ameri...
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    American Expat

    July 15, 2012 at 2:28 PM
    Oh, FFS! I simply accommodate what the host wants! If they want shoes off, then shoes off, if they don't GAF, then shoes on! What's so f'ing hard about that???
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