Becoming Friends With Your Neighbors Is Asking for Trouble (VIDEO)

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joann from bensonhurstBefore I moved to New York, the land where everybody lives in dimly-lit walk-ups, I lived in Los Angeles. And apartments in L.A. are much different than those in NYC, in that they make you much more exposed to your neighbors.

I've been in the building I live in now for over a year -- there are neighbors I've seen maybe three times. Seriously. And the only reason I found out that the couple on the first floor moved -- three weeks ago -- is because I just saw somebody new moving in. It's great.

All places aren't like this, though. Like I said, Los Angeles, completely different. When I sneezed, my entire complex would say "bless you" in unison to me. It was awful. Because when you get friendly with neighbors, bad things and awkward situations are bound to happen.

After watching the hilarious video from CafeMom Studios featuring JoAnn from Bensonhurst, I now realize that I made a cardinal mistake when I lived in Los Angeles -- I got to know my neighbors in the first place.

Now, I never had to deal with pooping dogs or female tenants wanting to borrow my husband, but I did have to deal with super loud music at crazy hours of the night, among other things -- obnoxious park jobs, trash in the corridors, etc. And because I was friends -- or friendly -- with these people in the first place, it made things all the more awkward (AKA, I was too chicken to say anything, so I had to just live in squalor with nary a parking spot within a five-mile radius of my house). If I would have just minded my own business to begin with -- and not gone over for a beer that one time -- things would have been so much easier. Thanks, JoAnn.

For more useful advice -- with a side of sass -- check out JoAnn's video series on CafeMom Studios YouTube channel. A new episode airs every Monday, but do yourself a favor and subscribe in case you forget.

Are you friendly with your neighbors? What's the worst situation you've ever been in with a neighbor?


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femal... femaleMIKE

My husband got a bit too friendly with our tenants (we live where we rent out)and now its so hard to do my part.  When I say something i look like the "bi***", when my husband says something he looks like a two faced hypocrite.  I blame it all on my husband. 

Our neighbors aren't so bad.

nonmember avatar Christie

I kind of get what she is saying....I am not too friendly with my neighbors but still do say hi and bye and everyonce and a while we small talk a bit about the weather or the kids .... and it makes it hard to complain about things they do...
But on the upside is if you do things to annoy your neighbor....chances are they will feel the same way and keep it to themselves though because the only thing I hate worse than an annoying neighbor is one that complains about me!

Stacey. Stacey.

I thinks its good to know your neighbors, but not necessarily be friends with them. I like knowing what kind of people I live next to.

nonmember avatar Whatever

I was friends with the neighbours till the husband yelled at us and made cry at 8 months pregnant and mine had a shouting match with them both. Now I don't even say hi and never will. I learned my lesson because they are obviously psycho racists underneath it all. I now totally believe in not being friends with neighbours or colleagues.

Jespren Jespren

Wow, you want to know what's wrong with the world check the mirror. Avoiding friendships with your neighbors so you can be a jerk when something happens you don't like instead of having a normal conversation about something like parking or trash? Wow! Neighbors are NEIGHBORS you know, a synonym for 'friend' back in the day, the very classification we are called to be nice to simply by the rules of civilization. It's one thing in this day and age to simply not know your neighbors due to opposite schedules or just lack of opertunity, it is entirely another to actively avoid them.

BriLee BriLee

I love my neighbors. I love out neighborhood too. We're not in an apartment where people come and go often so we're in this for the long haul. The couple on one side have grown children. They love our boys and since my husband is gone a lot they help me out. I'm 30 weeks pregnant with two boys under 4. We have block parties with all our neighbors. Fourth of July is probably one of the holidays I look forward to the most.

I think it's awful when you don't know those around you. I've lived that life and it sucks. I love having friendly neighbors. It doesn't mean you spend every waking hour with them but it's nice to know who's around. Being home alone I'm glad those around me are keeping tabs.

Lokis... LokisMama

I don't know my neighbors too well, but from the amount of cops showing up at their houses, I probably don't want to.  I think the only association I had with my neighbor to the east is calling the cops when someone tried to break into their house.

pitti... pittiesmom

Our last neighbor was a psycho! One day she'd be nice and the next she's throwing a table in front of the plow driver we hired to do BOTH ours and her driveway. Then calls the cops to say we're trespassing. We explained we paid the guy to do both driveways because while she didn't drive, her friends that did would get stuck in the snow. The cop basically told her she was an idiot and to stay in her house. She moved out, now we have new neighbors and I'm hoping they aren't crazy too.

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