Keeping the Romance Alive After Having Kids

on February 1, 2010 at 7:01 AM

rose pillow Just in time for Valentine's Day, new mom Cafe MicheleZ shares her top five tips for keeping the romance alive after having kids...

Set aside a date night. Get a sitter, and sneak out! Make date night a priority right away so that it becomes part of all your new routines.
Make yourself feel sexy. How? Wear something sexy to bed. It doesn't have to be lingerie—anything that makes you feel sexy. And shave your legs. New moms are especially guilty of not shaving (I am!), but it's because we have no time! But if you take the time to shave, put on some scented lotion, it goes a long way in the romance department. And snuggle-time is softer.
Dance. If you have kids in the house, you can even get them to join in. Plus newborns love music. Put on some music you love and dance together. It will instantly raise your endorphins and no matter if the music is fast or slow, be sure to be in constant touch with each other.
Ban the TV from the bedroom. Now if only you could ban the kids from sleeping with you.
Read a sexy book together. Kids love bedtime stories so why can't adults enjoy the adult version? When you are snuggled up in bed, shaven, and in pretty pajamas, without the TV on, read an erotic novel or sexy how-to book to each other. It may just take romance to the next level.

How do you make yourself feel sexy?

Comments (6)

Cafe Jenn

on Feb 1, 2010 at 3:54 PM

To make myself feel sexy and to destress all at once, I take a floral scented bubble bath and shave my legs. Does a world of good for you.

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GoodMomma24-7

on Feb 2, 2010 at 6:41 PM

Keep on dating....you gotta have that time for just the two of you. Even if it's just lunch at home during baby's naptime, or a picnic @ the park. :-)

KrystalRhea

on Feb 9, 2010 at 10:18 AM

My husband and I have read sexy stories to each other before. We really like it. Maybe I should go find a new book for Valentines day.

MMcCray

on Feb 14, 2010 at 4:29 PM

I agree with Good momma, keep dating and have fun with each other. The fun does not stop just because two people get married and have kids; it has just begun in my book. Think about the time that the two of you would sneak and get away, take a walk and send or place curious love notes all around. Do the simple and silly things that keeps the fire going it works.

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LoganTroyMom

on Nov 13, 2011 at 7:25 PM

You can ban the kids from sleeping with you. My 3 yo knows to knock before entering our room and to not come bother us at night. If he needs me he can call for me and i will come to him. Not necessarily because of sex (although yeah, we wouldnt want him seeing that!) but because we need privacy and 'our space' in general. And we dont allow co sleeping. Not only did he used to kick the crap out of us, but there's barely room for us 2 in bed and again, we have our bed and room and he has his. We shared a room (and sometimes a bed) until about 15mo and it was hell. With baby no 2 on the way we will have him in our room 6mo max probably. Ideally closer to 3.