Can Childless Friends Give Good Parenting Advice?

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CafeMom beckyr has a friend who can't have children due to medical reasons. So beckyr tries to involve her in her children's lives as much as possible.

But when beckyr says something like, "I have to go buy school supplies for my kids," the friend will reply:

"You know what you need to do. You need to make them go out and earn money for their own school supplies."

"WTF? LMAO," says beckyr. "Can you just imagine? 'Dear Chris's teacher: I'm sorry he doesn't have his binders and paper yet, but you see, he hasn't worked hard enough to earn them."

For years she's smiled and bore it, though lately she just wants to scream, "Stop telling me how to raise my kids!"

Then again, this advice can be just as annoying when it comes out of the mouths of people with children, too.

And as LKRA says, the street goes both ways:

"I am the last of my friends to have a child, so I get advice from all of them about what to do with my baby, from formula to car seats to CIO to solids to walking. I gave them advice when I was childless, and I'm sure it drove them crazy, but now they're getting their turn with me!"

How do you deal with childless friends giving you advice? Do you smile politely and just ignore it, or do you honestly tell them how ridiculous that suggestion is?

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Lanasmom Lanasmom

I don't have any childless friends that give me advice---It's mostly the ones who have 3 kids and so they now think that thye "know all" --I just smile and remind them that no 2 kids are alike as i let their advice go out the other ear.

Cafe... Cafe MicheleZ

I think it depends on the advice. Most of my friends don't have kids yet, but they share stories about their childhood or things their moms did -- and I find this helpful. And I also love learning more about them and their upbringing.

rozepyle rozepyle

i tell my childless friends to stfu ;)

mommy... mommyheymommy

NO!  I used to do this to my sister before I had kids.   I don't know how she so graciously put up with me!  ROFL

puppy... puppyraiser8

Frankly, I've had plenty of childless friends AND family members give me advice. The familiy members especially think that I am young and stupid, and therefore, know nothing about my child. I pretty much tell them to mind their own business and let me raise my own kid. I'm also pretty tactless so I often tell people exactly what I think of them. But it is WAY annoying when people give me advice. If I have a question, I will ask on my own!

RanaA... RanaAurora

People don't give me advice unless either A. I ask for it, or B. they're a close friend WITH kids who I already respect their childcare education.

Queen... QueenOfNagsHead

omg, I have one of those friends! It got so bad that one day, I actually tolde her that ssaying it is easier said than done & even though she is great with my kids sometimes, there are certain ways to decsipline them in certain situations & if they whine or get an attitude, I am not going to make them scrub the floors,lol, but I will say stop but to her thats not good enough & i dont care


 

michi... michiganmom116

I smile and ignore it.  Someday, if she ever has kids, she'll find out what it's really like.

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