Am I Being Selfish?

on August 11, 2009 at 4:00 PM

My friend has a house in Woodstock, NY, and she's planning a weekend ladies only getaway, inviting some friends to spend a couple of days tubing, hiking, antiquing, and/or relaxing in her little cottage in the woods.

I'm so excited! I'm five months pregnant with twins and feel this may be one of the last times I get to do something like this in a long, long time. Plus, I need to breathe in some country air!

Here's the problem...it falls on the same weekend as my niece's second birthday.

I'm very close with my sister and her daughter Tennessee -- I see or talk to them daily, we live close and do lots of things together. I hate that I will be missing T's birthday, but I'm feeling strongly about going on this girl weekend. I'll be a mama of twins by the end of the year, so am I entitled to be a bit selfish now?

I talked to my sister about it this past weekend. Told her how I felt bad, but I wasn't going to make the party and hoped that she was OK with that. She was great about it...even said she wishes it was a different time so she could go, too.

Still, I feel guilty.

What do you think? Selfish of me or do I deserve a little vacay with my girl friends?

About the author Michele Zipp

loves vintage and will defend skinny jeans to the death though she is highly superstitious and "death" is probably a bad word choice. She has a touch of the hoarding disease and enjoys sleuthing, the worst reality shows, and wearing high heels, even at the playground. She's an AP mom of twins, slightly crunchy but with a pedicure.

Filed Under: time for you

Comments (8)

juicedupmom

on Aug 11, 2009 at 4:14 PM

You need this trip, I have 2 and I have had no time away in 6 years! Your family with god's blessing will have another b-day,you can see her the day before and besides the future birthdays are the ones she will remember not 2! She is barley understanding she is having a birthday. Her mom will understand, just be honest you have a lot to still go through that you do not even realize....

Report this comment

madysmom09

on Aug 11, 2009 at 5:53 PM

I agree with your sister, it is a well deserved vacation. take time out to be "you" one last time.. relax and most of all just have fun.. good luck! and congrads ladybug

Cafe Sheri

on Aug 12, 2009 at 12:00 AM

Uh, you know what I'm going to say. Take the trip, sister. Take it and run!

Busymama07

on Aug 12, 2009 at 2:10 AM

Hmm, define "selfish". Maybe it is a little "selfish", but that isn't always a bad thing! We ALL need to be a little selfish sometimes. Trust me, you NEED this, GO!!! Especially since there are no hard feelings from your sister. You have no reason to feel guilty!!!

Alieda

on Aug 12, 2009 at 9:53 AM

I would take the trip and then when I get home take my niece go to the park , to the movies or something else special to celebrate with her.

Cafe MicheleZ

on Aug 12, 2009 at 10:00 AM

You are all the best! Thanks...this really helps me not feel so bad. Wish I could take you all with me!

mia482008

on Aug 13, 2009 at 9:46 AM

Your niece is going to be two I promise she won't remember adults at her party and there will be many more, but like you stated you may not have this opportunity again for a long time. I agree take it and run. Good Luck with the twins.

MAyers

on Sep 24, 2009 at 5:11 PM

Dont feel bad, you can always take your neice to lunch or come over to your house to watch her favorite movie/tv show and make a cake for her bday. Have fun.