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I jut took a self-esteem quiz at Discovery Health, and scored a whopping 35 on the "self esteem index," which means I have "relatively low self-esteem." According to the site, self esteem is the key to happiness and success. Uh-oh.
Yet there are now some psychologists say that high self-esteem isn't all it's cracked up to be, and that "fragile" high self-esteem (where you are constantly defending your self-worth) is no better than having low self-esteem.
Jim Collins, the author of Good to Great, says that self-esteem doesn't necessarily help people succeed—studies show it's not linked to academic or job performance. Self-esteem can make you feel like you're already good enough, which makes people lazy; whereas low self-esteem can make you work harder to prove yourself.
Look at Barbara Walters. Most of us would consider her a success, yet she wrote that she called her recent memoir Audition because "No matter how high my profile became, how many awards I received, or how much money I made, my fear was that it could all be taken away from me. I have always felt I was auditioning, either for a new job or to make sure I could hold on to the one I had."
So having more self-esteem isn't alwaysa good thing. That makes me feel a whole lot better about myself.
How did you do on the quiz? Were you surprised by the results? Do you have more or less self esteem than you thought you did?