Who Do You Compete With the Most?

on July 1, 2009 at 4:46 PM

I'm not talking about softball. Nef8eria asked the moms in Marriage and Relationships to take a good hard look at themselves and consider the family member, friend, ex, child, or co-worker they compete against the most in their lives.

"For me, it's my in-laws, particularly my sister-in-law and mother-in-law, as well as his nieces," Nef8eria says. "My husband always puts me in a position to feel bad if I'm not doing things the way they are doing them. So in order to keep him off my shoulders, I try to comply (rolling eyes)."

Competing against in-laws is big. So are mothers, twin sisters, girlfriends, step-children and cars LOL!

Bully for the moms who say they don't compete against anyone, like shell1m:

"Everyone is good at different things, and quite frankly it's sooo draining to try and compete with people. It causes strain on families. I like who I am, and it took me a LONG time to be able to say that. So I just enjoy my husband and kids and try not to get too aggravated with my family."

Who do you compete with in your life? Tell me why ..

About the author Cynthia Dermody

is The Stir's Managing Editor who has trophies in her home for her skills at the Irish Jig. She makes cupcakes with as many fattening ingredients as possible, doesn't comb her hair for months at a time, and was probably a faerie in a former life.

Filed Under: emotional health, relationships, stress

Comments (4)

JPsMommy605

on Jul 1, 2009 at 7:16 PM

Thankfully no one. I learned in high school that I don't like competition on any level, so I choose to not compete in any venue. The closest I come to competition is "racing" my son to see who gets dressed fastest. Of course, that mean's I'm often left with one leg in my pajama bottoms for 3 minutes so I don't win. :) Of course, it all helps that I'm not married, have no in-laws, and my closest family members are 1,000 miles away, so there's no pressure to compete against anyone, either!

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awesome4

on Jul 1, 2009 at 9:38 PM

Compete for what that is senseless, I don't get why people feel the need to. Honestly trying to keep up with the Jones will kill you. I can only be me and that is all. I guess some people just want to be better than others and they feel no one else can have more than them or have something a little nicer. In reality it's stupidity and they need to grow up.

Ks_mom94

on Jul 2, 2009 at 12:28 AM

It seems like everyone is competing with me. I know...crazy, but I am not a competive person and so I feel like I have to work twice as hard to get anywhere. Just my feelings here.

artC1s

on Jul 3, 2009 at 3:42 PM

I compete with myself I guess. I am continually setting goals for myself, and assessing their value as it applies to my life and that of my family. I spent plenty of my earlier years competing with others, and it was a waste of my time and energy.