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It's Thursday, which (since last week) is Love Yourself Day at Healthy Living. Part of loving ourselves involves taking care of our minds. Remember the brouhaha a couple of years ago over Rhonda Byrne's The Secret? Her message was to attract good things to your life by thinking good thoughts. Applying the laws of attraction is fine and good, but how do you stay positive on a daily basis?
In the Moms, You CAN Have a Career AND Freedom at Home! group, Kristiewooten shared her plan to stay positive. She called it her "Mental Diet for the Next 90 Days and the Rest of Your Life." Her nine steps to living a happier, healthier life are:
1. I refuse to dwell on un-resourceful thoughts or feelings.
2. I refuse to indulge in any dis-empowering questions or vocabulary.
3. If I catch myself beginning to focus on the negative, I will immediately interrupt the pattern and choose another alternative such as:
• Shift my focus – Play music, walk on the beach, etc.
• Use my Power Anchor – works every time
• Shift my physiology
• Trigger other empowering anchors, sounds, memories, smells, etc.
4. Use problem-solving questions, such as:
• What’s great about this?
• What’s not perfect yet?
• What is the meaning and what can I learn from this?
• What am I willing to do to make it the way I want it?
• What am I willing to no longer do to make it the way I want it?
• How can I enjoy the process while I do what is necessary to make it the way I want it?
5. Be proactive in my responses and take action now!
6. Each morning, start out by asking myself the following questions:
• What am I happy about in my life now? What am I excited about?
• What am I proud about in my life now? What am I grateful for in my life now?
• What am I enjoying most in my life right now?
• What am I committed to in my life right now?
• Who do I love? Who loves me?
• How do each of these make me feel?
7. Each evening go to bed by asking myself the following questions:
• What have I given today? What did I learn today?
• How has today improved the quality of my life or how can I use today as an investment in my future?
8. Make certain that my whole focus in life is on solutions and not on problems. The moment I see a possible challenge, immediately focus on the solution.
9. If I backslide – that is, if I catch myself indulging in or dwelling on an un-resourceful thought or feeling, don’t beat myself up with self-talk like "I should do this or I should’ve done that." Take the word "should" right out of my vocabulary; because it is so dis-empowering to me. I just do better next time and I get better at it every day.
Think you could follow this plan? What does your mental diet include?