Woman Uses Side-by-Side Photos to Show Why We Should Embrace 'Unflattering' Tagged Photos


We've all been there: We look at a photo taken of us, only to totally cringe inside because we feel like it's "flattering," or whatever society has defined that as. If it's online, we may feel tempted to untag ourselves so that it doesn't show up on our profile. As small as this action may seem, it actually speaks volumes to a much greater issue about only wanting to show ourselves online in "flattering" photos, which aren't even representative of who we really are.

  • Megan Jayne Crabbe, or @bodyposipanda on Instagram, proved this point by sharing side-by-side photos of what she used to consider "flattering" and "unflattering."

    On the left is a photo that she would typically post on social media because it's what she considers to be "flattering," since she looks thin. On the right is an "unflattering" tagged photo that would usually make her stomach drop and send her "down the body-hate rabbit hole."

    "The only version of myself I wanted people to see was the carefully selected, highly edited, what I believed to be the most 'flattering' (read: thin) version," the body-positive activist writes on Instagram. "I was so convinced THAT was the only version of my reflection worth seeing, and what other people thought of it was everything."

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  • But now she's no longer letting just one photo define who she is.

    "These pictures are both me," she writes. "On the same day. In the same clothes. Neither one represents me more or less than the other. Neither one is better or worse."

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    Obviously, that mindset is challenging to achieve, Crabbe admits, when the first thing we do when we see a photo of ourselves is zoom in on the parts that we're led to believe aren't "good enough."

    "That's why we struggle with pictures taken of us while we're just living -- we weren't able to minimize those parts in advance," she says.

  • So she's challenging people to "zoom out" and think about the whole picture, and what was happening during that photo: your life, duh.

    "It was taken to capture a moment," she writes. "That's it. How your hair looked or the size of your body doesn't matter. Remember how you felt. Remember that sight, that smell, that feeling, that joy. Remember the living."

    It's just like how the photo on the right was actually taken during a moment when she was happy and enjoying life -- and that shouldn't be reduced to how "flattering" she looks in it.

    ".... You'll see that the whole picture tells a much more important story than how you looked," she says. "And that every version is worthy of being seen."

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    It's another worthy reminder that our social media profiles don't tell the whole story of who we are.

  • In the comments, people cheered Crabbe on, calling her post "inspirational."

    "Oh my goodness," someone else commented. "It's taken me so long to learn and accept this. So important."

    Go, girl!

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