Endometriosis Is Debilitating, So Let This Woman Have the Few Good Days She Gets

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At least 6.5 million women in the United States live with endometriosis. This is when the uterus lining grows outside of the uterus, causing women severe pain and possibly infertility. As Faithann Paslay, a Las Vegas resident who has endo, put its, it's an "invisible chronic illness." And for those who don't live with it, it can be difficult to understand what it's actually like. What we usually see is just a small, tiny snapshot of someone's life -- not the full picture. 

  • Paslay is done with people judging her based on the photos she shares online, especially if they're of her celebrating when she does feel okay.

    "I can't control endometriosis or its side effects," Paslay writes in an article for The Mighty. "I cherish the good days I do get, and when I am feeling OK, I like to have as much fun as possible because I know it'll soon end."

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  • They'll say she's faking it, "because how can someone have that much pain and still go out and have fun?"

    "Why is it OK for people to tell me I'm faking it because I'm actually enjoying myself?" she says. "Why are people so quick to discredit you, so quick to call you a liar, so quick to judge you?"

    On the other hand, they'll say she's seeking attention if she does post a very honest photo about a bad day with endo, like having surgery. Basically, she just can't win.

  • But, "All you're seeing is a Facebook post," she reminds us.

    "You don't see me the 99 percent of the time," she continues. 

    "You don't see me with bags under my eyes from the lack of sleep I've gotten," she writes. "You don't see me clinging to my stomach at 2:00 in the morning repeating over and over 'please stop the pain, please stop it.' You don't see me, you don't know all I go through."

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    Her life doesn't stop because of her endo, and this includes good and bad moments.

  • So she's done apologizing for living her life, and she wants anyone else who feels similarly to stop as well.

    "Stop letting people get to you, stop letting them define you," she writes.

    "Don't let them be the judge and jury to your life," she says. "We got this, we know the pain we feel, we know how badly we wish to have good days, we know how it feels to want to celebrate them while you can."

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