This Woman's Side-by-Side Photo Illustrates Exactly Why We Need to Be Kinder to Ourselves


Sometimes we can be our own worst critic, internalizing the body standards set by society and then holding them up to ourselves. Like when you see a photo of yourself, what's the first thing your mind jumps to? Probably your flaws.

But others around us most likely don't even notice those things that we're most insecure about.  

  • Louise (who goes by mybetter_self on Insta) illustrated this with a side-by-side comparison of the same pic, labeled with two different perspectives.

    "As much as I preach self love and truly made some progress accepting myself, there is something I really struggle with: pictures," she wrote. 

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    "Whenever I see a picture of me, the first thing which catches my eyes are my flaws," she continued. "I always see what is wrong."

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  • The photo on the right depicts Louise's eyes going straight to her "flaws," like her nose or back.

    "This is usually what follows when someone shows me a picture they took of me," she said.

  • The photo on the left is what other people see when they look at a photo of her, or anyone else -- they see assets instead.

    Instead of beating herself up, Louise realizes that when she sees photos of other people, she doesn't think about their "imperfections" -- she thinks about what makes them so great. 

    "... I really do not look at other people's flaws first when I look at a picture of someone else," she said.

  • She wants to apply the latter mentality to herself. "So why not do the same with yourself? We really need to learn not to be so harsh on ourselves."

    "I am going to work on it, and I hope you will too," she said. 

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    Commentors praised Louise for her authenticity around how she percieves herself in photos.

    One Instagram user wrote, "There are things that other people would consider 'flaws' or 'weird' about themselves, I find to be unique and what I like about them most. But it's another story when it comes to myself, so I know exactly how you feel."

    "And it is horrible how we people can 'hate' how we look," someone else said. "But I do it to myself, but I will try to change it after seeing this."

    Here's to her little reminder to be kinder. 

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