The Important Reason This Mom Is Rocking a Dress She Has 'No Business' Wearing

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Our society's unrealistic body standards have unfortunately contributed to our doubting ourselves and how we look, especially when it comes to what clothing we want to wear.

  • In an honest Facebook post, Katey Johnson, aka The Mother Octopus, decided to stop letting society dictate what she should and shouldn't wear.

    Instead, the mother of two wants to rock whatever makes her feel good, like this form-fitting black dress -- one that others might think she has "no business wearing," she wrote in the post. (Even though a world truth is that people have business wearing pretty much whatever makes themselves feel good.)

    She recently rocked the dress during a girls' weekend with her best friend, and on a trip with her husband.

    "Someone could say that I look a little pregnant in it, because of, you know, that part sticking out in the front," she wrote. She continued, "Once upon a time I grew two babies in that part sticking out in the front, but I assure you, now it's just where I keep my cheeseburgers and sauvignon blanc."

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  • "I'm not known to wear form-fitting clothes," Johnson wrote. "At all. But I wanted it, so I bought it. And I was proud of myself for it."

    This mentality hasn't been easy for Johnson, who said she is currently at her heaviest weight (when she wasn't pregnant, obviously), and has previously battled with body image issues. 

    "Another truth is that I've always struggled with my weight, and if you've ever struggled with your weight, you know it's not a physical struggle," she said. "It's about how you see yourself and how you speak to yourself in your mind." 

    "And it's exhausting," she added.

  • Wearing the dress represents her muting all negative comments about herself: "I've decided to start being kind to myself."

    As a work-from-home mom, Johnson could "spend two hours a day at the gym if I wanted to," and she could avoid wearing things that society tells her she shouldn't wear -- or she could focus on more important things that matter: like her framing business, her marriage, her family, and overall, enjoying life.

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  • Johnson hopes her post reaches other women who feel self-conscious about wearing certain items of clothing.

    "If I can put on a dress I have no business wearing to go out with my husband or to go to a fancy dinner at a nice restaurant with my best friend because it makes me feel good, you can too," she said.

    "If the hard part is talking yourself into it, tell yourself life's too short to worry about things you have no business wearing," she added.

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