15 Women Reveal Why They Refuse to Freak Out About Swimsuit Season

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By the standards of many women's magazines, I should be freaking out right now. I should be looking at my big, pale thighs and desperately thinking about how to get my "best beach body" ready for the summer. But you know what? Screw that. It's way too stressful and unnecessary to have to think about how I can alter my body in a short amount just because society thinks I should. Especially when I like my body just fine how it is. 

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I plan to spend most of the season at the pool or the lake, and I plan to spend zero percent of that time worrying about how I look in my swimsuit. My kids are still at ages where all they want to do is have fun with me in the water, and I am going to soak up every minute of that no matter what people think. 

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I know it can be hard to escape all the messages out there that tell people that their bodies are a problem to be solved. Well have the remedy: Read on for wise words from 15 women who've found peace with their bodies and are psyched to rock a swimsuit this summer. Because EVERY body is a "summer body." 

  • I want my girls to see their mom putting on her damn swimsuit.


    "The big thing for me was having daughters. I got super-militant about it when they got older, because I wanted them to see their mom putting on her damn swimsuit. I wanted to not pretend to love my body as a gift, because it is. It moves me, holds my spirit. It allows me to do so much. What it looks like is of no consequence. That is just pandering to what marketers are trying to sell. And it makes me angry. The idea that my daughters would spend even one minute not loving their beautiful selves makes me so sad." -- Sarah T., Saint Paul, Minnesota 

  • I don't want my boys to see girls' bodies as flawed.


    "I am at a great point and age (35) where I feel comfortable and confident in my body even though I am the heaviest I've ever been. For me, it's about strength and health and self-care and not looking 'hot' for anyone. Self-acceptance is a beautiful thing. 

    "And I don't want my boys to grow up to look at girls' bodies as something that is 'flawed' by my pointing it out all the time. It's really important to me that they are respectful and not the guy who tells girls they are fat, or [believe] that somehow they get to have an opinion about someone else's body. No Brosephs on my damn watch." -- Lindsay D., Natchez, Mississippi

  • Because I don't GAF -- I'm going to focus on being healthy and strong!


    "I've been wearing my bikini to swim lessons all winter, because I don't give a f*ck.  I've decided I'm going to focus on being healthy and strong, because that's what I want to model for my kids. My mom was constantly saying negative things about the way she looked, and it was confusing and hurtful because to me she was perfect. I'm not doing that to my kids." -- Taylor A., Saint Paul, Minnesota 

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  • Being super-pregnant helps me not care.


    "Being super-pregnant helps me not care. I'm gonna be huge this summer and I am rocking my bikini, stretch marks and all. I just don't care if my body isn't some weird shame-inducing ideal. I'm over it. I'm growing a person. I'm damn amazing." -- Courtney H., San Diego, California

  • I wear a swimsuit all year round now, and I wear it to be fast.


    "I used to swim in high school and college but then quit. In the 10 years since college, I've had three kids and gained about 80 pounds. But I recently started swimming on a masters team, and it has made me feel confident and strong. The whole 'perfect summer bathing suit body' bullsh*t just doesn't even touch me. I wear a swimsuit all year round now, and I wear it to be fast, not to look perfect. I'm comfortable in my own skin now." -- Amy A., Tucson, Arizona

  • Strong Momma


    "I'm 42 and don't care. I try to run to stay in shape and clear my head, but more nowadays, I'm really trying to be careful about body image around my kids. I was carrying my 2-yr old son somewhere the other day noticing how his legs were straddling my muffin top. He didn't say anything about that particular roll, which was coincidentally his doing, but he did say, 'Momma, you're strong!' Trying to focus on that." -- Anna M., Saint Paul, Minnesota

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  • As long as I'm confident my boobs will stay put, I'm good!


    "To be honest, as long as [the bathing suit is] not digging in my sides, and I'm confident my boobs will stay put, I'm good! It also MUST be a bikini/tankini, because there's no way I'm going to fiddle with trying to pee with a wet one-piece. So, yeah. It's a combination of no f*cks given and realizing people aren't really noticing me." -- Adriana L., Fresno, California

  • I'm more confident and proud of my body after having kids.


    "I'm more confident and proud of my body after having kids. I don't have time or energy to put thought into what I look like to other people. And I want my kids to focus on fun rather than looks and be proud of their bodies and know all shapes and sizes are beautiful." -- Ashlee T., Saint Paul, Minnesota

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  • I'm fat and a feminist and I REFUSE to let anyone make me feel bad.

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    "I'm fat and a feminist and I REFUSE to let anyone make me feel bad about the body I have. This is especially true of all the companies that try to body shame women to make a buck, like the diet companies and women's magazines. 

    "I can't be a good ally to other women if I don't love myself first. So, yeah, I've got a great beach body. It is the one I have right now." -- Marijke N., Rochester, New York

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  • I made a New Year's resolution.


    "I made a New Year's resolution this year to do one thing every day that would annoy Donald Trump. I feel like rocking my plus-sized bikini accomplishes that mission quite nicely. Suck it, Mr. President." -- Regan D., Clearwater, Florida

  • I love the ocean way too much to give a sh*t.


    "Over it! I decided to be grateful my body is healthy and strong and had two children. I love the ocean way too much to give a sh*t about what I look like swimming in it. And being in the Caribbean always boosts my body confidence -- other places just don't care as much about being a skinny bitch like Americans! Embrace the booty!" -- Jennifer D., Saint Paul, Minnesota