The Age When Women Have the Most Friends Isn't What You'd Think

friends at 29How many friends do you have? That's an odd question, right? Well, according to a feature in New York magazine, how popular you are may very well depend on your age. And the magic one seems to be 29.

Those approaching their third decade have approximately 80 friends, which is about 30 percent more than those in any other age group, based on a survey of 1,505 Britons.

So, what's behind the almost-30-somethings' popularity? 

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The firm that conducted the study, Genius Gluten Free, explains that at 29, people are still in touch with school friends but have also forged new bonds with work colleagues. 

If you're over 29, do you agree with this study? If so, does it depress you to think that you may have passed your popularity prime without appreciating it? 

At 43, I can honestly say I feel like I have more friends now than at any other point in my life. I've accumulated them from different jobs I've held, from schools (and even story times) my children have attended, as well as groups I've joined and classes I've taken, not to mention neighbors who have become great pals and confidants. 

But really, shouldn't it be about quality rather than quantity? I'd take one always-there-for-you friend over 10 sort-of friends any day. I'm talking about the ones who know when your birthday is and celebrate it, not the kind who keep mixing up your children's names.

Thanks to social media (Facebook, I'm looking at you), the word "friend" is bandied about without carrying much weight. While some may vie to have more and more "friends," I'm happy to know I have enough to count on when I need a laugh, a shoulder to cry on, or an honest opinion on a new dress. 

Do you agree with this study? At what age have you found yourself with the most friends? 

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Well, that study did pretty much fit me at that age! But as you said, It is about quality, rather than quantity.In your 30s you start putting away the bullshit that your 20s held and move into adulthood. Your "friends" drift after your 20s for the most part , be it from some getting married or those who still want to party and want to go "scamming". By my 30s I was so happy to be home on a saturday night and not in a club. It just drifted with the ones who were like minded . Now we do dinner parties and drink wine with dinner instead of seeing how "fucked up" we can get on an empty stomach.

youth... youthfulsoul

80 sounds like a lot of friends. Acquaintances maybe.

00NoW... 00NoWay00

I think I had the most friends when I was in my late 20s to early 30s. Now in my late 30s, many of them have drifted, but we are still friends. I am a busy mom and wife so most of my socializing is with my husband and family, but we do make time to go to dinner with friends from time to time. :)

Tracys2 Tracys2

It actually was 29! I had moved here, still in touch with former friends, joined a social club and made new friends, worked and had friends there. Had 3 kids, quit work, and they are all gone now, 10 years later, and only a couple from church I know in passing, plus all the parents of kids my age already have friends and are super-busy.

Who knew?

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