Your Post-Baby Body Is Still Beautiful -- Show It Off in a Bikini!

Changing your mind about wearing a bikiniI have a love-hate relationship with HBO's Girls. I loved the first season, sort of hated the second, and now I'm just not sure how I feel about the third. But I watch it nonetheless. 

I don't generally take much away from the episodes, other than feeling glad I'm not a 20-something anymore. After watching the episode two weeks ago when Hannah spent almost the entire time in a small green string bikini, I sort of had an epiphany about postpartum bodies, even though Lena Dunham has yet to have any babies herself.

Now I realize that part of the show is about Dunham's character pushing the limits when it comes to social norms and how we perceive women. Admittedly that's one of my favorite things about Girls.

I definitely started out feeling a little uncomfortable with her showing so much skin, but after a couple of episodes, I got really upset with myself for feeling that way.

Ah yes, how the images of skinny women everywhere penetrate our brains and change how we see things.

Granted, I'm a skinny woman. Slender, as I checked off on a survey recently.

But that doesn't mean I have a great sense of self or body image. In fact, I've never loved my stomach, even before I had kids, and only just recently felt comfortable wearing a bikini.

And by comfortable I pretty much mean pulling at it, obsessing over it the entire time I wear it, and buying one that covers up the parts I don't really like. 

So when I saw Lena in that green bikini, I started thinking about me in a bathing suit, mostly because I thought she looked great and wondered if I could ever pull it off the way she did.

Sure there were rolls, and flaps, and cellulite, but to be honest, I didn't even notice them. I heard her voice, I saw her face, and I, for the first time, saw her as a whole person who has a few extra pounds on her. Regardless, she really knows how to rock a string bikini.

I really wish I could take back all those years where I somehow thought my body wasn't worthy enough for a two-piece. All those years where I obsessed about things that I'm pretty sure no one else saw or cared about.

This summer, it's bikini or bust for me, with whatever stomach I have at the time the hot weather hits. I'd love for it to be a little tighter and a little smaller by then, but if it's not, that's not going to stop me from wearing one.

Who's with me?

How has your body image changed since having kids?


body image, eating disorders, exercise, self esteem

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nonmember avatar Sarah

I like this article! I wore a bikini through my whole pregnancy simply because I felt great about my body. Now coming up on summer again, I am debating wearing one. I earned this body, I won't be ashamed of it!

sassy... sassykat122

I think it depends. Are we talking 15 or 20 extra pounds or are we talking a People of Wal Mart.com situation? At a point a string bikini should not be worn.


 

nonmember avatar BostonBob

My wife works hard to stay in shape (gym, eating well, aiming for 10,000 steps daily, and often hitting 20,000). She looks great in a bathing suit and I have to convince her not to wear an "old lady" bathing suit. She's not perfect but there's no else I'd rather see in a bikini (apologies to Ms. Dunham).

nonmember avatar MrsClark87

I have 3 children. My youngest is almost 2. I work out 5 days per week. I mistly eat healthy. No fried foods, lots of water, not a lot of sugar. I have about 10 pounds leftvto lose and I still will not wear a bikini. I hate my stomach. Ive always had this little paunch. Im trying to get over it, but hopefully one day I can get over it.

kysma... kysmama08

I wore one my entire pregnancy, because baby bellies are just cute! I'm back to where I want and need to be and I just bought a new bikini. LOL to sassykat122 comment

nonmember avatar cloudydaydream

Its been more than two yearss since I had my son and I still dont have the confidence to wear a bikini although I workout everyday and have a flat tummy. This year I made a vow to myself that this summer was the year to let go of those fears and love myself.

nonmember avatar Me

I really do not understand why people are "uncomfortable" with Lena Dunham showing skin. Is it because she is a normal person and we are only comfortable looking at 6 foot tall size 00 models? Is she so far from that extreme that we don't know how to respond to her? She looks fine- great, normal, and I don't see any reason to be shocked, surprised, horrified, disgusted, or uncomfortable with the way she looks or dresses. She is also clever and hilarious. That's why I watch the show.

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