Lea Michele recently opened up to Elle magazine about how she's doing in the wake of her love Cory Monteith's death, and while she sounds so strong and as though she's keeping her head up, she admitted just how challenging grieving has been. The actress confesses, "I never thought I would be in this position in my whole life. ... You can choose to rise, and that's what I'm going to try to do." At the same time, though, she shares, "It's very hard, and you have to be very strong to come out of this alive, but I think by doing the best for myself, by showing that you don't have to lose yourself, maybe someone else will feel some sort of strength or comfort."
Wow ... as amazing as it is that she wants to set an example for others, I have to wonder if that's really what's best for her?
It almost sounds like she's trying to hold it together for the people around her and the fans and everyone watching. Of course, she's under a lot of pressure to hold it together, but agh ... What if that's preventing her from really owning her grief?
Another clue that she may be too hard on herself and holding back: She feels like she needs to do even more than she already is. Lea notes:
I know that Cory would want nothing more than for me to take this situation and use it to help people. I don't know if I will. I don't know how.
Ugh. Poor thing. It sounds like she's asking questions that it may be just too soon to answer. Or that she may need more digging, self-reflection, grief counseling, etc., to answer. But that's perfectly natural.
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Getting over something like this isn't something that happens overnight ... or even in weeks or months. It's an ongoing process -- one that's different and unique for everyone -- and that's something I really hope Lea is embracing. Because she doesn't have to "lose herself" to be herself and give herself the time and space to truly heal.
Do you agree it sounds like Lea's being too hard on herself?
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