The 3 Worst Things About My 70-Pound Weight Loss

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woman on scaleLosing 70 pounds was probably one of the most emotionally taxing experiences I've ever been through. Granted, it was a four-year difficult weight loss, but during the journey, I grew as a person. I learned about myself. I contemplated the kind of person I wanted to be. I created goals. I did a lot of soul searching. I developed new hobbies, many of them active.

Mostly, the outcome from my journey has been positive. I'm a happier person who enjoys life more. I'm a healthier person who has more energy. I feel like my overall outlook on life is much much more positive and I try to associate myself with people who are positive, as well.

But don't get me wrong ... there have been negatives, too.

WHOA. I'm not complaining. I promise, really. I'm just being real with you here. Thus I present you with the 3 worst things about my 70-pound weight loss:

1. Clothes are fucking expensive. Sorry for the expletive, but it's true. I'm the kind of woman who searches around for the right pair of jeans for weeks, only to contemplate buying them upon location because of their hefty price tag. Now, imagine doing that ... for all your clothes. During those four years I developed a habit of waiting to buy new clothes, thinking to myself that if I wasn't done losing weight, then there was no point to drop the cash. Many times, I was right.

But not all the time. And when it came time to cave in, buy everything from thongs and bras to tops and dresses -- it added up, quickly. That old college job delivering newspapers helped with that. Yeah, I won't bother explaining how I got involved in that.

2. People who don't care about you will pretend to. Mostly men (if you're straight). For me, it's been primarily old high school and college classmates who I haven't spoken to in years. These men remember me larger. They remember me as someone who I'm most certainly not anymore. I've been approached at bars, messaged on Facebook, emailed, texted ... all by men who I may have only spoken three words to back in the day. I'm sorry, but I'm not buying your "we should catch up!" or "it's been years!" fake excitement bit for a minute. You're not getting in my pants. 

Of course, I've been contacted by women too. Women who don't really care what I've been doing for the last bazillion years, but want to know how I did it. While I appreciate the messages and often respond because I feel like it's good karma, the usual trend is they fall off the face of the earth after I do that. Oh well, if I can help someone better their life, too, then it's worth it.

3. Your perception of yourself may never fully change. I know for a fact that I look like a completely different person now. I'm proud of who I have become and the hard work that it took me to get here. But I think I will always, if only for a few seconds sometimes, see myself as larger than I really am. Heck, most women (and men) deal with this even if they haven't been on a similar journey.

What's important, though, is I don't find myself doing crazy things because of this altered perception. On the days I feel "fat," I still feel lucky. Does that mean I won't run an extra mile that day during my workout? I very well may. But what's important is that I'm realistic, that I stay thankful, and that I stay true to myself.

Have you ever lost a lot of weight? Did you find any negatives?


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nonmember avatar Kristi

Congratulations to you!!I actually have a crap ton of weight to lose but have lost 30 since Memorial Day. It has actually been kind of fun. Feeling better is great and finding new clothes is already a pain because like the author said they are **** expensive and I know I am losing more so it feels very wasteful!

ashjo85 ashjo85

I was reading a blog, I don't remember whose, detailing this woman's 100+ weight loss. She'd believed, like most do, that her weight was the driving force behind her insecurity and unhappiness, and was floored to realize that those traits hadn't gone away even a little once she'd become the skinny person she'd worked for. Instead of feeling like people were staring at her judging her weight, she found herself miserable knowing that people were talking to her just for her body and nothing else, and she was second guessing every relationship she had. Her advice was for anyone trying to lose weight to get into a therapy program and continue it on the journey, and after the goal. Fixing the outside will not fix the inside. It just removes that one scapegoat.

youth... youthfulsoul

I lost 100 lbs with diet and exercise (sadly I gained it all back years later!) but the thing I hated the most were the backhanded compliments such as "how good you look now".  Because what I really heard was you didn't look good before...

nonmember avatar Seanna

Resale shops for clothes until you get to your goal, is how I saved money. You know you have really lost weight when you need new underwear though.

nonmember avatar Ashlie

I am 5 ft tall. I had 2 pregnancies basically back to back (csection deliveries 21 months apart) and I have accepted my body will NEVER be how it was before I had kids without the help of a tummy tuck.



But, when my second and last son was born in 2011 I weighed in at 210 lbs and he was born 6 weeks early. I am now weighing 143 and in a size 8 which I could probably go to a 6 if it weren't for the skin situation. I have busted my ass to lose weight and I still have about 15-20 lbs to go. But I'm getting a breast reduction done.



The worst things about losing weight for me has been:



1. The skin. I have so much loose abdominal skin



2. Buying clothes, I only buy 1-2 things at a time!



3. The way it's affected my marriage. Things are better in some ways and very different in others. It's an adjustment.

Konda Eusey Parker

I have lost 134 pounds with WW. I made goal in October. I guess the worst thing is the extra skin I have hanging around. I carried most of my weight in my hips and thighs and that is here the skin is. I can't afford to have it removed, so I don't wear shorts outside the house. However at. Size 6/8 I look great in my clothes. I find a lot of great deals on clothes now that I am thinner. I am not skinny by any means, I went from 289 to 155, so really according to the BMI I am still over weight by 5 pounds. However, I am off both blood pressure meds and now have low blood pressure and I can do so much more than before. I do need more exercise, but I keep my diet in check. I love the new me for the most part. I still have notional eating binges sometimes, but it is getting better. I wouldn't change a thing except he extra skin, and getting in more exercise.

Destiney Marsh Fischer

congrats! Another thing for me loosing 35 pounds in 5 months was hairloss :/ it came back but it was really freaking me out! 

Jennifer Miller

Yea i lost around 100 pounds myself then a pregnancy now working at it again, first off cloths are expesive but treat your self you worked hard to get a hott body :),2nd off  those asshole guys ... they will always be losers im sure they were in high school don't buy what they are selling surround yourself with nice caring people they do have support groups for people who have lost weight or are doing that .3rd off i fully agree i still feel like the fat kid no one wanted to hang out with or date even when i would go shoping i found myself going for really big cloths and the sales woman always looking at me like i was nuts , you will never ever in a million years see your self for who you have become or the way you look it can be a total mind fuck but deep breath it will be okay just look at your self in the mirror every morning and say i have changed i know it sounds corny but it really helped. congrats on your awesome self improvement you desever the best .


 

bertaj bertaj

I am at the beginning of what I hope will be a very large weight loss journey, but I can already related with the clothes. I am in need of a lot of new things, but what if I lose 5 pounds and they no longer look good or don't fit? Yeah, that part really sucks.

Alisha Renee' Miller

Congrats to all you ladies on your weight loss. I recently had my third child (first daughter) and I have began my weight loss journey. I have about 45 lbs to go. Wish me luck :-)

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