Melissa Etheridge Says Angelina Jolie's Double Mastectomy Was a 'Fearful' Move, Not a 'Brave' One

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Angelina JolieWhen you mess with Angelina Jolie, you mess with Brad Pitt. While I don't know why anyone would ever wanna mess with Brad Pitt outside the bedroom, apparently Melissa Etheridge is taking on the celeb couple. A cancer survivor herself, recently the singer spoke out about Angelina's decision to undergo a preventative double mastectomy, saying she wouldn't have done the same thing. To be exact, Melissa thinks Angelina's choice was fearful, not brave.

Whoa. Them be fightin' words. Apparently Brad just heard about her comments the other day and told Extra he'd have to "give her a call." That is NOT a call I'd wanna be on the receiving end of.

I wouldn't want him hearing what else Melissa had to say about Angelina's choice in a recent interview with Washington Blade, here:

I have that gene mutation too and it’s not something I would believe in for myself. I wouldn’t call it the brave choice. I actually think it’s the most fearful choice you can make when confronting anything with cancer. My belief is that cancer comes from inside you and so much of it has to do with the environment of your body. It’s the stress that will turn that gene on or not. Plenty of people have the gene mutation and everything but it never comes to cancer so I would say to anybody faced with that, that choice is way down the line on the spectrum of what you can do and to really consider the advancements we’ve made in things like nutrition and stress levels.

Hmmmm. I mean, I get what she's saying but I totally disagree. Angelina made a very hard decision to undergo an operation that reduces her risk of breast cancer down from 87 percent to 5 percent after positively testing for the BRCA1 gene.

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No one ever wants to go under the knife. Angie did in an effort to make sure she's around for her kids and her husband. Was she scared? I'm sure she was. Still, in my eyes, that's an admirable and brave decision. At the end of the day, people make different choices and go down different paths, and the one that Angelina chose is different from Melissa's. I'm sorry, Meliss, but I don't think that warrants criticism over one decision or the other.

Do you see where Melissa is coming from? Do you think she was out of line to criticize Angelina's decision?

 

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nonmember avatar mel

It was done out of fear. Fear for her life fear that she wouldnt get to see her children grow. Im sure angelina has trauma from losing her mother to cancer. It is her choice out of fear or not.... although I think its brave for melissa to stand up and say it doesnt have to be this way for everyone. I do love me some angie but thay was the first thing I thought too.. angie must have a ton of fear stored up inside somewhere. Although taking out body parts doesnt release the fear vibration. It puts in more.

LeahL... LeahLazarou

Melissa is right. And those are not "fighting words". She says herself she has the gene so she obviously researched and informed herself on the options. Clean living/eating can change everything. Just because she is Angelina Jolie doesn't mean she's right.

LostS... LostSoul88

Of coarse it was done out of fear. Her motehr died from brest cancer, her aunt was dying from it. I was be fearful it getting it. But it was a brave move to do what she did. 

LadyM... LadyMinni

She did the smart thing to save her life for her children. She did the brave thing by allowing herself to become and example in the media. She could have undergone her surgeries and never told anyone. Instead she came forward and told the world that she had done something dangerous to save her own life, which encouraged other women to get themselves checked for the gene and probably helped some women facing the surgery to make the decision. I think telling other people was the brave part.


And who the hell is Melissa Etheridge? Some 15-minute "celebrity" who wants to be famous again? I've never heard of her.

1Step 1Step

I completely understand why Angelina had this surgery.  I lost both parents to cancer, my sister now has cancer and is fighting it.   Kidney cancer, lung cancer, lymphoma. It runs in my family but WHERE it will run is the mystery.  It's not breast cancer.  All different types affecting different organs.   So this gene isn't what's "turning on" my family.  However, if I could afford to do it I would have whatever surgery it took to make sure I didn't have to go through such a horrific disease.  Do I think it's a bit over board to remove both breasts at this stage? Sure. But if you have seen cancer take so many you love you'll do anything within your power to save yourself.  Just wish I had a billion dollars instead of NO healthcare...or savings.  Every day I live the "reality" that cancer is growing inside me - every day I can just feel the cancer growing.  I've been living with death daily for over 20 years and sure wish I had it as easy ) :

nonmember avatar Sherry

Don't listen to Melissa Ethridge about Angelina Jolie. Look how she treated her x. What ever she has to say perhaps do the opposite. Just a thought

nonmember avatar Fifi

I completely agree with the statement that just because she is Angelina Jolie does not mean that she is right. Angelina's surgery was definitely a fearful move. Most women who have BRCA1 gene choose preventative mastectomy because they do not want to live in fear of developing cancer. Revealing the surgery to the world was smart but not necessarily brave either. Do you really think that she could have kept it secret for a long time? I still think that Angelina should have used her popularity to support cancer treatment and prevention research instead of cutting her body parts.

Desere Olson

I personaly am not an angelina jolie fan, but what does it matter that she got this done? She wanted a lower chance to get cancer. Just because melissa ethridge got cancer doenst mean angelina has to. and to say she should have used her popularity? this woman is a mother and a wife, and yeah she obviously did this out of fear, celebrities dont have to do everything for the world ya know, they are allowed to do things just for themselves and their families. just because shes a celebrity doesnt mean she has to suffer with the high risk of cancer.

nonmember avatar AMY

PERSONALLY I THINK FEAR COMES WITH BRAVERY. HOW IS SOMEONE BRAVE IF THEY DO NOT CONQUOR THEIR FEAR? I THINK IT WAS BRAVE FOR HER TO GO THREW THE PROCEDURE MANY WOMAN WOULDNT GO THROUGH WITH THE PREVENTION AS SHE DID, BECUASE OF INSECURTIES AND OR OTHER REASONS. I THINK SHE WAS BRAVE BEING FAMOUS AND SHARING IT WITH EVERYONE IT CHANEGS YOU AS A WOMAN, ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU HAVE A PARTNER. I APPRECIATE THAT SHE WAS SO UPFRONT AND HOPE THAT SHE CAN BE AN EXAMPLE TO MANY OTHER WOMEN THAT FACE THE SAME DECISION SO IT CAN HAVE THEM LIVE LONGER FOR THEIR KIDS HUSBANDS OR WHATEVER REASON. I BELIEVE THAT MELISSA IS OUT OF PLACE AND MUST HAVE HAD SOME PERSONAL EXPERIENCE OR GUILT TO SOMETHING IN HER PAST BECUASE EITHER WAY ITS VERY BRAVE AND IMPRESSIONABLE.

nonmember avatar Bookworm

I don't know why people think that bravery and fear are unrelated. Without fear there can be no bravery. Of course she was afraid, but she made a choice for herself and she doesn't deserve to be criticized for it.

Also to those saying, "Just because she's Angelina Jolie doesn't mean she's right", when did she ever say she was. When did she say that that's what every woman should do? She said that she was tested, made sure she was informed about her options and made the choice that was best for HER. I don't see that she's telling women to do anything but make sure that their informed of all their options so they can make the best choice for themselves. How is that wrong?

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