My Stretch Marks Are a Stark Reminder of Where I Was 70 Pounds Ago

stretch marksEveryone has their insecurities. For some, maybe it's chubby arms or an eyebrow that's a little thinner than the other. For others, it could be self-proclaimed thunder thighs or a toe that's longer than the rest of 'em. For me, mine are my stretch marks.

I shudder just saying those words. They're something no one talks about. Seriously, when was the last time your girlfriend called you on a Tuesday night to chat about her torn dermis? Exactly. But I have them. And no offense, but I bet you have one or two, too. Mine tell a story. A story that involved a lot of tears, hard work, zillions of miles of running, and an ultimate loss of 70 pounds.

I lost 70 pounds. That's not what I think about when I look at the straggly stretch marks on my sides, though. I think how ugly they are. I wish they weren't there. I wonder if other people notice them, if my ex-boyfriend ever thought they were disgusting, and then I feel self-conscious.

It's hard. It's hard because I'm skinnier now. A woman of my size and shape shouldn't have these marks on her sides. It's hard because I can finally now say that when I look in the mirror, I don't see that larger version of myself anymore. It took me a long time to get to that point. But still, I see those marks, and then I remember her. I remember how she felt being trapped in that body with those same marks.

The reality? I know I'm probably the only person who pays any attention to them. I know that at the end of the day, it's better to have these and be where I am today than to not have them and be back where I was seven years ago. I know all I can do is try my damnedest to embrace my body for what it's become. These marks, they're a part of me. And just like the rest of me, I've gotta learn how to embrace 'em in whatever way I can.

Do you struggle with stretch marks? Can you relate?

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nonmember avatar christi

Stretch marks. I totally understand that you are self concious, like you said we all have something. BUT!!! Those stretchmarks should be reminder that you fought for a better life style and figure. I used to be very self concious. I started getting stretch marks when i was about 9 years old because i matured much faster than all the other girls. i always feared having a realtionship because i felt that my partner would think they were hideous, but that wasn't the case ever!! You just have to love your self flaws included! and... don't focus on the "ugly" because you will be blind to all the beauty!!!

Choco... Chocodoxies

"I think I speak for all real ***** when I say, we ain't got time to worry about no sh*t like stretch marks. We know they either came from one of two things: Either you was big and got small, or you was small and got big. Either way, we f***ing." - Katt Williams.  

Essentially, we all have them. I have them on my breasts, the inside of my thighs, and worst of all, right across my belly. I call them my tiger stripes. I earned my stripes by having my two babies, and they were worth it. It sounds like you battled for your stripes! 70lbs! Rock on!!  Be proud of your stripes. 

Paws84 Paws84

Lol nice quote, Choco. Loved that comedy.

xreds... xredstarsx

I've never seen the big deal about stretch marks. I have a friend who has no children and has never weighed more than 115. I weigh 250 and have had 2 children. She has way more stretch marks than me. She got them at 11 years old and even has them on the back of her calves. She is still beautiful.

kckcm2 kckcm2

A woman your size shouldn't have them? so what people who are overweight should have them? we really need to think about how you phrase things honey. That being said instead of looking at the negative maybe you should look at the positive stretch marks can be a reminder of how you improve your lifestyle and made healthier choices.

Angie... AngieHayes

Well, I got them when I became pregnant, had never had  a single one before and now I have them all over my stomach, sides, boobs, and thighs... its something I have to live with now, the price of children I suppose. Its not like I was ever going to be a swim suit model.

lobus lobus

I have them on my breasts and inner thighs and hips from puberty. Most of them faded and dont bother me except the ones on my thighs are deep I feel them when I stretch or.when my husband and I have foreplay I'm self concious. Surprisingly I got none after two pregnancies. So who knows!

Lasha... LashaTumbai

If you're genetically predisposed to getting stretch marks you will get them no matter what you do or what size you are. I have never once had a man complain and I had them long before having a child. Hell, a lot of men have them too! Congratulations on the weight loss. I started running myself four months ago and have already dropped 25 lbs. It's so much more effective than anything else I've done thus far for exercise, and I've tried several programs over long term.

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