10 Things You Should NEVER Say to Someone Trying to Lose Weight

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scaleWeight loss isn't exactly the easiest thing. It's annoying. You have to come to terms with the fact that you're fat (it sucks, believe me, I know) and then you have to put all this effort forward making changes to your comfortable, luscious lifestyle so you can live a healthier, better one. For instance, you have to swap out your double-decker peanut butter and jelly lunch sandwich (what, was that just me?) for some sort of grilled chicken salad concoction. Seriously, where's the fun in that?

Clearly, losing weight is a taxing struggle as it is. However there are ALWAYS people that make it harder. You know, the people that think that they're helping when they're absolutely not? Those naggers who think they have your best interest in mind, but everything they're saying makes you want to strangle them?

Here, let me give a few words to the wise. Check out the 10 things NEVER to say to someone trying losing weight:

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1. "One tiny piece won't hurt!" You're right. It won't hurt. In fact, it'll probably taste absolutely fantabulous. But what you don't seem to understand is I'm AVOIDING this food because I cannot just eat ONE PIECE. Stop peer pressuring me, clown.

2. "You don't need to do this, you look fine!" Thanks. That's sweet. I am doing this though because I want to feel fine. So please be a dear and pass me a bottle of water and a Crystal Light packet and help me fill my daily water quotient, will ya?

3. "So-and-so lost weight last month and she said dieting was HORRIBLE." I. Know. It's. Horrible. Stop. Telling. Me.

4. "Well where can you go out to dinner?" Why friend, that's awfully nice of you to ask. I am physically capable of going ANYWHERE for dinner tonight -- I just can't eat the same quarter-pounder with cheese as you. PLEASE, don't attempt to make special arrangements for me if I don't say I need them.

5. "You're not going to eat that, right?" Right -- me putting a piece of chocolate in my mouth is one huge joke. You have NO idea that I saved up just enough calories by opting for an afternoon salad to savor this moment and now you're ruining it for me. YES I'M EATING IT. LOOK, IT'S ON MY TONGUE.

6. "Just don't lose too much weight, OK?" Let's focus on the here and now, OK?

7. "I hate that you're limiting yourself so much." Can we just, like, talk about something that isn't food? Let's go see a movie.

8. "You look so skinny today!" Thank you! That's an awesome compliment! But now I'm going to wonder what in the world I was wearing yesterday and why it made me look fat.

9. "What size are you now?" No. Just no.

10. "How much more do you have to go?" I'm sorry, I thought I was done? Cue feelings of nervousness, anxiousness, and who did I think I was kidding? syndrome.

What's the most annoying thing someone's ever said to you while you were trying to lose weight?


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nonmember avatar Cass

As someone currently on a diet to lose another 50 lbs (15 down), get over it. 1, 2, 3, and 5 would probably annoy me, but they come out of ignorance, not malice. It's very easy to joke about not being able to just eat a little piece or thank them for their kind words. Telling you what you can eat is rude, but it isn't necessarily intentional. The rest are compliments. You're on a diet because you think or are fat. Why the heck would you get upset when someone says they see progress? Geez.

nonmember avatar amanda

i agree with cass :)...but when i lost weight the worst thing i heard was "wow! U look great! U did have some saddlebags before" they were taking bout my hips...i just said thanks n walked away lol

Rosas... RosasMummy

when someone says wouldn't u be doing even better if u had less of this or that. No I'm doing absolutely fine with my salad the size it is


How about not telling anyone that you are trying to lose weight .I was never questioned about what I ate or  if I was working out.I just got the "whats different about you"?to which I answered; I don't know (with a shrug) with a big ass smile on my face as I walked away.

nekoy... nekoyukidoll

Sadly my ex (who's a BBW lover) said ALL of these things to me when I went on a diet, and more.  Heck the jerk even used to outright sabotage my diet.

LadyS... LadySnow23

Most of those are pretty annoying, but I don't think about them too hard. I eat my damn chicken, guzzle the stupid water, and make sure my butt goes to my Zumba classes.

nonmember avatar Melanie

I used to do yoga but got too self-conscious and stopped for several years. I lost a bunch of weight and went back and mentioned to the instructor that I hadn't been there because of my weight. She said "oh, how much do you want to lose?" When I said I weighed a lot less then when I was there last she was like "oh". I hate it when you've reached a weight loss goal that you worked your butt off for (haha) and are excited enough to tell a virtual stranger, but they sort of under react and look at you like "what are you excited for? You're still overweight." I know they don't have the benefit of the before and after, but it's still annoying when you've dropped the two dress sizes or whatever and someone who doesn't even know you says "you're not there yet."... You don't know what I've been through.

pixie... pixieangel

I won't lie, I have heard all of these things while trying to diet.  The truth is, I've gotten to the point where I believe that you shouldn't have to cut the foods you love just to get thinner.  Portion them down, sure; but not cut them out.  I also believe that if you walk into a Victoria's Secret and immediately become depressed, you have to make a change; I speak from personal experience.  I have four kids, and as I much as I would LOVE to look smoking hot, I don't foresee that happening.  I simply do not have the discipline for it.  I know I'll get blasted for saying that, and I deserve it (yes you can say I'm throwing a pity party), but that is how I feel.  Just saying.

Lindsay Renee Edwards

I think the worst one is the "you look great just how you are!" UUGGH! bite my ass. Thats like saying "Dont diet, my opinion is more important than yours!" byotch, I dont care if YOU think I look good. I want to look good to ME.

Cel7777 Cel7777

I agree with the above poster who said keep your weight loss efforts to yourself (maybe aside from a few close friends/family). If you put it out there and tell everyone, you'll get a lot of unsolicited advice, and people will make it their personal business to either track your progress, encourage you, or sabotage you.

People are generally just rude and annoying, albeit clueless. I've been going through a very stressful time, and as an (unintended) result, I've apparently lost some weight. There are several people (particularly my elderly neighbor, bless her heart), who feel the need to exclaim "You're getting too thin!" everytime they see me (with my neighbor that's practically everyday). It's almost as though they want as explanation as to why I've lost weight, or assurance that I won't continue to lose weight, or something. Mostly it makes me uncomfortable and I try to change the subject.

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