Eva Longoria Admits the Disturbing Truth About Why She Got 'So Skinny' After Divorce

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eva longoria tony parkerEveryone told me weight would just magically fall off as I got closer to my wedding day, because when you're stressed, "that's just what happens." Um, not so much. It's more like the reverse for me, thanks to hormones, so I've just been hoping my hard workouts provide stress relief (sounds pretty counterintuitive, huh?). But for many women, stress and difficult emotions often lead to involuntary weight loss. Even if they're going through the roughest times of their lives, they might look thinner than ever, and then we commend them. Ridic!

Eva Longoria spoke with Dr. Oz about the months following her divorce from Tony Parker, and she said it was "the time I got the most compliments, because I was so skinny. I was not eating. I was depressed. I was sad. My diet was coffee." Grrrreat.

She continued:

People kept saying, "You look amazing. Divorce agrees with you." And I was like, "I don't feel good. I have no energy." I didn't know I was depressed. I mean, I knew it was a sad moment in my life, but I wouldn't categorize myself as depressed.

Ugh, that is so sad! And it strikes me as totally twisted that we praise people for looking "amazing" even if their low weight is the result not of a healthy diet and exercise, but because they're actually 180 degrees from vital or happy. Like, hey, that's okay, being sick or depressed is just fiiine as long as you're "SKINNY!" Give me a break.

We should be able to see past what's on the surface and actually see that someone is NOT well. That they're struggling. Skinny doesn't always mean healthy, beautiful, well. That's not exactly a newsflash. But maybe it is that skinny for the wrong reasons shouldn't earn compliments. Then again, Eva lives in Hollywood, and many people out there have a hard time seeing past anything but rich and skinny. It's sick.

Eva notes that she did feel sick, so she went to her doctor for some blood work. She remembered:

I was just depleted of every vitamin. He said it's as if somebody took a straw and sucked everything out of your body. "You don't have any iron and your liver's overacting." It was like all these things were physically wrong with my body, so I had to saturate with vitamins and kind of get back on this track.

Which meant eating! But healthier. No sugar, which can actually contribute to depression because it creates those blood sugar highs and lows. Eva explains:

For about three months, I did a really strict no sugar diet, and I had more energy than I've ever had. My palate was different. Things tasted better.

Totally know what she means, and it's so awesome to hear she was able to turn things around like this. And hopefully, she's gotten even more positive reinforcement for these healthier behaviors than for subsisting on coffee and wasting away. 

Does it drive you crazy that we compliment "skinny" even if it's the result of sickness or depression or stress?

 

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nonmember avatar blh

I lost 12 pounds in two weeks after a break up ( and kept it off). It was magical. ME and they guy became friends again after a few years and I actually told him cheating on me with some ugly skank was the greatest thing you ever did for me haaaa. And Prima, why does one HAVE to be depressed over a break up. I mean it's certainly normal if you are, but I don't think it'd disturbing to be ok, especially if the relationship was bad or something.

nonmember avatar eee77

I went through the same thing when my exhusband told me he was leaving, out of the blue. I couldn't sleep, couldn't eat, I lost around 60 lbs in about a month, went from a size 12 to a loose size 2. I didn't receive any compliments on my sginificant and sudden weight loss. I was actually stopped by friends and coworkers who were wondering if I was sick, as in cancer type sick. People were concerned not happy about my new tranformation. I wish now that I had seen my doctor/psychiatrist for my profound depression.

LeeshaE LeeshaE

I went through a bad break up a few years back and ended up losing about twenty pounds, brought my 5'7" frame down to 110lbs, and I tell you what I've never been hit on more in my life, even my friends told me how great I looked. I on the other hand went on a reverse crash diet and consumed everything in site til I put the weight back on, I hope to never be that small again, I like having a few curves.

nonmember avatar Cas

IT absolutely drives me bonkers. I have suffered from an eating disorder and this only reinforces that. Why do people feel the need to comment at all? Would they comment if I gained 75 pounds instead of losing it? It fills me with anxiety when people make weight comments.

lalab... lalaboosh

Everyone around me knows that I struggle with anorexia, yet they still love to see weight loss. :/

nonmember avatar Vallerie D.

I know exactly how she feels and can relate in every way. I have been going through A LOT lately (wont bore u with details) and on one occation two teachers that I work with at an elementary school confronted me about my sudden weight loss. While one was insinuating drug abuse, as I was standing there defending myself, the other was saying how great I looked for having lost so much weight. I wanted to scream because I felt I was being interrogated for something I could not help. It's been a few months, and my weight has not changed. I still get complemented on my weight loss but on the other end I continue to receive weird looks. I wish they understood. I DO NOT LIKE NOR DO I WANT TO LOOK THIS SKINNY AND UNHEALTHY!

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