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32-Year-Old Homeless Man Sues Parents for Not Helping Him Out Financially

by Kiri Blakeley on February 21, 2013 at 12:15 PM

Let's face it, not everyone can say their parents were Parents of the Decade. Even those who seemingly have supportive, loving parents have their share of gripes about them. Sometimes I think our ideas of what parents should be -- gleaned from old episodes of The Cosby Show and faint memories of The Brady Bunch -- are just ridic. But that certainly won't stop people without perfect parents from complaining -- or even suing. Enter 32-year-old jobless and homeless Brooklyn man Bernard Bey, who is suing his parents for being "indifferent" to his problems -- as well as causing all of them.

Bey, who currently lives in a homeless shelter, wants a judge to force his parents to sell the small percentage they own in a run-down brownstone to buy him a Domino's franchise. He thinks this will "break the bonds of poverty" and allow him to make a living.

Orrrrr ... it could put him into deep debt. Since, ya know, Bey hasn't exactly proven himself to be the hardworking kind. He's already spent five years in prison on drug charges and his mom says he's "never had a job in his life."

The lawsuit blames all of his problems on his parents, saying they were emotionally and physically abusive. If that's true, that can trigger a lot of emotional issues that make it difficult for some people to live a normal life. I do know people who were severely abused as children -- and they do have a lot of issues. Often, it's the state that has to step in to help and it's society that pays the price for their parents' failures. Perhaps some parents should be sued if they were particularly abusive and terrible.

But it's not easy to prove past abuse. And in a previous case where two adult children sued their mom for not being a "good mom," they lost because they couldn't prove their mother's behavior rose to the level of being truly abusive. Should parents who are just "meh" be sued too?

Additionally, Bey admits that his parents HAVE given him financial assistance in the past. But apparently they didn't do it with a smile on their faces, because the suit says they gave him money but did it "painstakingly." Uhh, maybe they just didn't have it? Or were sick of giving it to someone who would then just waste it?

There comes a time in this life where you need to stop clinging to the wrongs of your childhood -- no matter how difficult that may be. But something tells me Bey isn't going to take that advice. He probably won't listen to his mom either, who adds: "I say go get a job. I've had a lifetime of him and I'm done." Ahh, this is why pets are so nice.

Do you think parents should be sued for bad parenting? Do you think people need to let go of their complaints about their parents?


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  • blh
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    blh

    February 21, 2013 at 12:21 PM
    I'd rather be dead than see my son turn into a worthless junkie, but if he does drugs and/or wont work I wouldn't give him one red cent. I would not let him into my house either.
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    manderspanders

    February 21, 2013 at 12:30 PM

    By the time you are 30 years old, you are fully responsible for the direction of your life.  If you had a shitty childhood, OH WELL. You can only make excuses for so long before they really aren't relevant to your current actions or lack thereof.  Personal responsibility.

    Hopefully this lawsuit gets thrown out; if it doesn't, then YOU SHOULD ALL BE VERY AFRAID.  The judge ought to tell the man to quit whining, take responsibility, and go to work.


  • miche...
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    micheledo

    February 21, 2013 at 12:34 PM
    At some point, every single person needs to realize their life is their own responsibility. Sure, how you were raised or even abused is going to haven an effect, but you can make your own decisions now. Grow up, move on, and change your choices! (And I truly have a lot of compassion for those who were abused. They have a tougher road. But to those who didn't have perfect parents - just let it go ,and grow up!)
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    Marcella Shambles

    February 21, 2013 at 12:47 PM

    What everyone else said and now we know why out legal system is so slow.  It's because of nut jobs like this.  And I'm not sure if I'm refering to the lawyer or the guy.  I guess both.


  • mleil...
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    mleilanim

    February 21, 2013 at 12:59 PM
    Im speechless. Well a couple words come to mind, but you know the whole 'if you've nothing jive to say, dont say anything at all" line......hmph.
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    mleilanim

    February 21, 2013 at 1:00 PM
    Jive...LOL...NICE
  • Shand...
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    Shandeigh

    February 21, 2013 at 1:26 PM
    Of for pete's sake. A lot of people were abused as children and are successful people. You know why? Because we decide to be! Dude is 32 years old... even if his parents lit him on fire every day of his childhood... it's time to put on your big boy pants and do something for yourself.
  • worki...
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    workingmama86

    February 21, 2013 at 1:36 PM

    What a poor excuse for a person! Regardless of his upbringing, his parents are NO LONGER liable for him. He is 32 years old. It's time to pull the big boy pants up and get a JOB like every other adult in this world!


  • Melan...
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    MelanieJK

    February 21, 2013 at 1:36 PM

    I think parents should be held legally responsible for keeping their kids healthy,   safe and secure,   in school and out of trouble until they're of legal age.     Kids should be able to take legal action after they're adults but only for things that occurred while they were minors and it needs to be based on evidence of the occurance not the result.      The fact that they're not successful adults should not be considered proof or evidence of bad parenting.     


  • Trish...
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    Trish T-Bossy

    February 21, 2013 at 2:08 PM
    Hahahahaha, ridiculous suit. Maybe if the guy was 18 and could prove abuse but at 32...ITS ALL YOU!
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