Mom Dies of Breast Cancer & Husband Gets Unbelievably Touching Letter From Her Doctor

letter er doctorIf you don't feel like crying and pondering your mortality, I suggest you stop reading now. This story is the mother of all tear-jerkers. An ER doctor who futilely tried to save a woman's life decided to sit down afterwards and pen her late husband one of the kindest, most touching letters I've (or you've) ever read.

The 24-year-old son of the woman who passed away from breast cancer (she was admitted to the ER due to breathing difficulties and died 16 hours later) posted the letter to Reddit so readers can "reflect on the power of showing compassion towards a total stranger," and it's nothing short of profound. In the letter, the doctor, who only treated the woman that one occasion, talks about how he or she felt a special connection to her, and how he or she was so impressed with what a loving couple the two were. The physician also wrote: "In my twenty years as a doctor in the Emergency Room, I have never written to a patient."

Here's the whole letter:

Dear Mr. (removed),

I am the Emergency Medicine physician who treated your wife Mrs (removed) last Sunday in the Emergency Department at (hospital). I learned only yesterday about her passing away and wanted to write to you to express my sadness. In my twenty years as a doctor in the Emergency Room, I have never written to a patient or a family member, as our encounters are typically hurried and do not always allow for more personal interaction.

However, in your case, I felt a special connection to your wife (removed), who was so engaging and cheerful in spite of her illness and trouble breathing. I was also touched by the fact that you seemed to be a very loving couple. You were highly supportive of her, asking the right questions with calm, care and concern. From my experience as a physician, I find that the love and support of a spouse or a family member is the most soothing gift, bringing peace and serenity to those critically ill.

I am sorry for your loss and I hope you can find comfort in the memory of your wife’s great spirit and of your loving bond. My heartfelt condolences go out to you and your family.

(removed), MD

This doctor taking time from his or her busy schedule to write this letter means more than anyone could know. This poor man who just lost his wife, as well as their children, now have something tangible that shows what an amazing person this woman was, and what a wonderful marriage these two shared. This note probably only took about 20 minutes to write, but it's something that this family will have forever. And now that it's gone viral, perhaps it will touch others and influence them, if for only a short while, to be kinder, and to take the time to tell people how much they mean to them.

As someone who lost my mother to breast cancer a few years ago, I can tell you: Getting a letter like this would have been priceless. It's something this family can now look at when they want to think of their mom/wife and smile, instead of cry -- and not too many things have the ability to do that when you've lost someone you love. What this doctor did means more than he or she will ever know. 

What do you think of this?


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dirty... dirtyhippiemama

We need more caring and compassionate doctors like this in the world.

LostS... LostSoul88

I agree we need more doctors like this 

imamo... imamombygrace

I think it's awesome. My Dad was sick for many years. In his final days doctors and nurses (that took care of him in the past) came by to see him. On the day he died and his body was wheeled out thw room..they came out in the hallways and stood there for respect. My Dh works there and he had never seen anything like it. My Dad would have been proud.

tuffy... tuffymama

Sometimes, good and caring people can inspire goodness and caring in others. I hope this won't be the last letter the doctor writes to a patient's family. Wonderful! God bless the family and the doctor.

Torra... TorranceMom

Beautiful story . . .

nonmember avatar Amanda Marshall

This was truely a gracious act of kindness. I am a breast cancer survivor & it means a lot to have doctors & nurses who really care about their patients. I was very lucky to have a great team taking care of me!

Teresa Rose Dye

There are many medical professionals that carry this same bedside manner. I am proud to say I have personally experienced it in Charlotte NC especially at my oncologist office and the 3rd floor cancer ward at Presbyterian Hospital Main!

hexxuss hexxuss

This is beautiful

Jessy76 Jessy76


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