"You can never be too rich or too skinny." It's an old adage, something that people love to say to motivate each other to lose weight, to make money, and to keep up the ambition. But it's also wrong, says Victoria's Secret model Erin Heatherton, who says she is all about the "curves."
Before you laugh at Heatherton's comments, consider this: She IS curvy compared to, say, Kate Moss. The comment could be viewed as empowering. "It's important to be fit, but you shouldn't get too skinny," she said. Except, here's the thing: the notion of "too" anything is actually not helpful.
People's bodies are, in part, genetic. We can work out to our heart's content, but some of us will be naturally thinner than others and some will be naturally heavier. I know women who run 10 miles a day and still look overweight, and I know women who do nothing and are very thin. See below:
Heatherton isn't thin like that because she works out twice a day. Her face isn't gorgeous because she adheres to any one workout program. She looks like that because she was born that way. And often, someone heavier was born THAT way.
The whole notion of "too" anything just perpetuates this ongoing issue. It isn't our place to judge. If we continue to believe a woman can be too thin or too fat, then we continue to pretend like women's bodies are somehow public. Guess what: No one owns my body. My body is my own and it's not "too" muscular or "too" flabby or anything else.
There is no one definition of beauty and no one right way to be. I am not saying everyone is physically beautiful. That would be a lie. Erin Heatherton is probably prettier than most of us. That's her thing. That's her beauty. But beauty is not just physical.
Beauty can mean someone has a beautiful voice, or beautiful generosity, or beautiful intelligence. By placing these physical limitations on women, these ideas that they can be "too" something, it gives us the sense that we must always work on something, that we can't just accept our physical selves and move forward.
There is no "too" anything. We are all fighting our own physical battles and doing the best we can with what we have. No one needs that pressure. Especially from a Victoria's Secret model.
Do you think there is such a thing as "too skinny"?