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Woman’s Boyfriend Raped Her in Her Sleep Because of Rare 'Condition'

by Kiri Blakeley on December 3, 2012 at 4:15 PM

Here's a despicable boyfriend for you: A woman in the U.K. discovered that for two years, her live-in boyfriend had been raping her while she slept. Apparently the woman's boyfriend has a rare condition called somnophilia, which is when someone gets sexually turned on by sleeping people. Seriously?! Never heard of this. The woman, Naomi Hampson, only found out what was going on when her boyfriend, Robert Fryer, reportedly confessed what he was doing to a friend, who alerted police. When police raided their home and nabbed Fryer's computer, they found pictures of Naomi asleep, in sexually compromising positions, and dressed up in clothes and jewellry -- he would even sometimes paint her fingernails. Could she really have slept through two years of rape?

Naomi had no memory of her sexual violations, and reportedly she was drinking more than usual because her father had been diagnosed with cancer. When she'd wake up in unusual positions, or in another room, or with her nails painted, her boyfriend would  blame it on her drinking. But police believe he was sedating her on top of it. Naomi says her life has been destroyed. What a scumbag.

Somnophilia is an actual psychological condition -- a predatory sexual paraphilia -- of someone who finds sleeping people sexually arousing. It's in the same class of psychological disorders as pedophiles -- who find children sexually arousing. Some of the signs of it include sexual urges when in proximity to a sleeping or unconscious person, or sexually fantasizing about them. It's also called "sleeping princess syndrome" -- which is way too nice a name for what happened here.

if you ask me, this was about someone turned on by rape as well as sleeping. Fryer has been convicted of his crimes and sentenced to eight years in jail. My guess is he found it a turn on when he was in charge and his girlfriend couldn't fight back and had zero say in what was happening. He liked having power over a helpless person. I would hope that an honest somnophiliac would at least talk about this with their significant other and ask if they could ever have sex with them while asleep. Some people might say yes, who knows. Or the person could pretend to be asleep. But when you do it without any consent, that's rape. I don't care what "disease" you have.

If you find yourself thinking about having sex with sleeping people, get some help.

Have you heard of somnophilia?

 

Image via Rochelle Hartman/Flickr

 

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  • Carme...
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    Carmen8706

    December 3, 2012 at 4:33 PM
    Eight years in jail for repeated rape? Is the judge a rapist too?
  • dirti...
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    dirtiekittie

    December 3, 2012 at 4:36 PM

    i've heard of the sleeping princess fetish, but i wasn't aware it was a 'disorder'. i can't really speak to the whole 'rape' aspect of it, because personally, i wouldn't have felt violated had it been my husband. (granted - different scenarios: i'm married, she was not.) but for two years she didn't notice this was going on? 

    if it's truly a result of his disorder and he can't help himself, i could kind of see that. but if he were drugging her so that he could do these things to her, then that would be a different story altogether. the real question is how much of it was due to the disorder and how much of it was driven by personal motives? 


  • tuffy...
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    tuffymama

    December 3, 2012 at 4:50 PM
    Gross. Any "disorder" that involves victimizing another living being isn't an "illness" to be excused by some bleeding heart doctor on the state payroll. It's criminal and needs punishment. Period.
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    Todd Vrancic

    December 3, 2012 at 5:04 PM

    @dirtiekittie, he reportedly sedated her.  That would explain why she wasn't aware of what was going on.


  • divam...
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    divamomtjcj

    December 3, 2012 at 5:07 PM
    yuck
  • dirti...
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    dirtiekittie

    December 3, 2012 at 5:25 PM

    thanks @todd vrancic - that makes it totally different, and sounds more like the "disorder" was an excuse. terrible. 


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    Cassandra Huber

    December 3, 2012 at 6:45 PM

    That isn't no damn disorder and neither is pedophilia. It is just an excuse for sickos to do what they do. All these "men" need straight up castration (both the testicles and penis). Stop trying to make this out to be something these sickos can't control. Pretty soon, every bad thing people do will be able to be covered up with a "psychological diagnosis." Way to take responsibility for actions here. 


  • Miche...
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    MichelleK41

    December 3, 2012 at 7:17 PM

    They do have counseling services for this. He needs help fast and he is an adult and knows this!


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    mrswillie

    December 3, 2012 at 7:30 PM

    I have never heard of it. 


  • GwenMB
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    GwenMB

    December 3, 2012 at 7:37 PM

    I'd never heard of this.  I agree that this sounds as much about wanting control as it does about being turned on by a sleeping person.

    I hope the woman in this case can get past this & not let it affect her life!


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