Your Presidential Candidate Romney Lost -- How Do You Cope the Morning After?

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head in handsIf you were a Mitt Romney supporter, this is likely a rough morning for you. This election was incredibly emotionally charged, and those who rooted so passionately for red are certainly feeling the sting this morning, in addition to the hangover anyone may have from that final Mitt-tini.

It's not easy to be on the losing side, but somebody has to be. Knowing that, however, doesn't make going forward any less painful. So how do people who fought hard for the candidate they thought would be best to run this country deal with the blow that he won't be doing so? I talked to two experts who gave some great advice to people reeling from the Romney loss, and here's what they had to say.

Dr. Raphael Wald, a psychologist with Palm Beach Psychology Associates in Boca Raton, Florida, said social media has heightened people's emotional stake in this game. "I think social media creates an environment that we cannot escape from. In the old days we could just put down the newspaper and shut off the TV if we didn't want to be bombarded with election information. I think this makes people feel more emotionally charged and invested in the election since it is inescapable."

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But he said that it's important for people to remember that campaigns are created to make you think that your world will end if the other candidate is elected. "We have been through numerous elections and people have been disappointed in every single one. Nonetheless, we are still here, living and breathing despite all of the doomsday campaigning."

He went on to suggest: "People who focus on things they cannot change tend to be unhappy and easily agitated. Focus on what you can do and continue to 'play the best card in a bad hand.'"

He said that continued frustration over a loss can serve as a stressor that ultimately leads to depression, anxiety, or medical problems such as heart conditions. "If things do not get better after a short time, it is probably time to talk to a psychologist about your issues."

Dr. Gail Saltz, a psychiatrist, psychoanalyst, best-selling author, and television commentator, says that when your candidate loses, you must ask yourself, what is best for the health of the country and your future -- maintaining dissent, digging in your heels, and trying to prevent anything from happening, or finding ways to engage in the conversation in a CONSTRUCTIVE way?

"We want our elected officials to reach across the aisle so that things actually get done that desperately need to, individuals have to try to think the same way ... find ways to compromise, be invested in a healthy future as opposed to winning or losing."

She went on to say that holding a grudge is extremely unhealthy, and people need to learn to let go of the loss.

"The candidates do not disagree on everything, so finding places you can see agreement, respectfully disagreeing is also fine ... we can agree to disagree, and accepting that the majority has spoken and giving yourself some time to feel disappointed which is normal but ultimately regrouping to see how you can with integrity intact add to the betterment of your community."

She continued: "We all have competitive spirit, and that is healthy, but letting this election become only about having your candidate win and reacting purely with sour grapes or wrath if they don’t (and undermining the agenda of whoever does) is not only unhealthy for you as an individual, it is unhealthy for our country as a better future will require working together. So be bummed for a week or two, then dig down deep and think beyond yourself to the greater good of a great nation."

How are you feeling today?


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MENSA... MENSAmamma

This was not a football game...it's our livelihood, our freedom and our children's future.


No one on here gets it, I don't know why I even try...

cmjaz cmjaz

I know. I am much worse off than I was 4 years ago. It will get worse. I am interested to see how many years obama will still try to say the bad economy is bush's fault.

cmjaz cmjaz

Gas was an average of 1.98 gallon at the end of 2008. We're doing so much better now.

cmjaz cmjaz

Oh and the stock market is down 300 points. That says a lot about how business is viewing this win

nonmember avatar Amber

The bad economy *is* Bush's fault. The entire mess started on Bush' watch and Obama did the best he could in the first 4 years to clean it up. Now that he has another 4 years, he'll finish cleaning up the mess Bush created and finish turning the economy around. And thanks to Obama we have more freedoms than we did 4 years ago. Say what you will, but Obama getting reelected is the best thing that could have happened to the US.

RMT1995 RMT1995

Gas prices don't have anything to do with the president. It's been stated a LONG time ago. The better the economy, the lower the gas prices. And vice versa.


And sorry you feel you are worse off than 4 years ago. But that's just you. I'm better off than I was four years ago. No one's life/situation is more important than the next person's.

RMT1995 RMT1995

Yeah, it means those super-rich are prepping for the increase in taxes they'll be paying.

jrphelps jrphelps

My family is far better off than we were 4 years ago (but I guess that's because we weren't rich 4 years ago & have moved from lower class to middle class & not Romney's version of middle class).  We were able to buy a house, 2 cars, have a wedding, have a baby.  My husband got a new better job.  Also my husband had an injury this summer & off work for 12 weeks otherwise we were well on our way to our best financial year EVER!  So I know next year will be great & then next 4 years things will be going up.  Our health coverage has gotten better.  So while some people say they are worse of, I am thankful to where we are today & thankful our president is Obama again & see much more success for my family over the next 4 years!!

Doomy234 Doomy234

I feel disappointmented. But thats life. I will take things as they come, no matter how rough they will be.

bills... billsfan1104

These articles are hateful. I get it, you are extactic that Obama won. Its not nice rubbing it in. It makes you look ugly and a sore winner.

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