Women Lying About Weight Is a Big, Fat Problem

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Women lie about their weight. Shocking, I know. Anyone who has ever been a woman for five minutes knows that it's the not-so-secret little "secret" of womankind. When a woman says her weight, we can typically add about 10-12 pounds to get to the real weight and call it a day.

A 2011 survey shows that, in fact, 70 percent of women lie about their weight in some way. They lie to their doctors, they lie to men, and they even lie to the DMV. I know it's true because I have done it, too. The reasons are varied, but the reality is they contribute to the problem and only lead to more lies. 

For many, we lie because men have no idea what women weigh. Seriously. My husband thinks Kelly Brook, a very curvy woman who is 5'8," weighs 120. Online, some claim 118. As a woman who knows body types, I would say she is closer to 130, maybe even more.

Guess what: She is still super hot. We ladies have lied ourselves into a corner. We have now said we weigh so little, so often that men don't understand that women of a certain height and body type (read: larger breasts and curves) can weigh 150+ and still appear "hot." Shocking, I know.

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The reality is that weight is arbitrary in many cases. Muscle is more dense than fat and, as someone with a muscular build who also wears a size 4, I know most people think I weigh far less than I do. This is why I lie.

The fact is, we ladies who lie only make it worse. Once we lie, we perpetuate the myth of how much it's "normal" to weigh and it goes on and on and then more people lie. How about if we make a deal, ladies? Let's stop the lying.

It may seem like 120 is the "ideal," but the fact is, not many people weigh that. In fact, healthy, small-sized women who work out and eat right may weigh up to 135 pounds and not be fat. If we were all honest, we would be a lot happier and have a much better sense of what it is "normal" to weigh.

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A curvier woman like Kelly Brook or Jessica Simpson or even Jessica Biel doesn't weigh 120 pounds. Jennifer Aniston might. But not one of those women is "fat." Like size, weight is dependent on many factors, and by lying, we only continue to feed the myth that 120 is a plausible weight for anyone but the absolute thinnest, most waifish among us.

Let's try to be honest, ladies. I'll tell if you will!

Do you lie about your weight?


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nonmember avatar Grace

muscle does not weigh more than fat. 1 lb of muscle weighs the same as 1 lb of fat. What you mean is muscle is more dense than fat so if you are lean and strong, you could look slim yet still weigh more.

Other than that, I agree with this article.

Sweet... SweetPieMama24

Men don't understand women's weight. It all depends on their height, their muscularity, etc etc. I weigh 168 right now (I'm in the process of still losing this baby weight!) and I'm 5'5. I look like I probably weigh close to 190 cuz I'm not as tall. When I was at my healthiest and skinniest (pre-baby) I weighed 155 and I looked like I was 130 because I have very dense muscles and do strength training.

nonmember avatar Graciesmom

I have never lied about my weight but I was really out of touch when I was younger. When I hit 130 I thought that was horrible - all these sexy women were supposedly 120 max. I now weigh 135 and I am 5'6". I fit into a size 2 or 4 and am not fat. Not as great as I think I could look but there is always something...

nonmember avatar Me

I weight between 115 and 123 pounds and have a muscular build. Right now I weigh about 118. The only time I was waifishly thin was right after my divorce when I dropped down to 111 pounds. I am also only 5'1" tall. If I weight too much more than 120 pounds, I'd be overweight. I get the point of the article, but why throw in the dig at the end that any woman who says she weighs 120 pounds or less is lying if she is not also really thin. That's just ridiculous. Being 120 pounds is completely plausible for petite women who are neither waifishly thin nor overweight.

nonmember avatar Guest

WheN it comes to what people look like they weigh it comes down to two factors. Teir actual weight (duh) and their bone structure. People constantly overlook the ivisual importance of skeletal measurements. For example I'm 5'5" tall and weigh around 105 which sounds grossly thin, however, my shoulders and hips are narrower than a coat hanger, my wrists are the size of a fourth grader. If I was to weigh 135 I'd look heavy and overweight because the muscle/fat mass would swallow my frame. Another example, from a different perspective, is Khoie Kardashian. She has a larger skeletal structure and if she weighed less than 135 she'd look sickly and not well.

nonmember avatar blh

I weigh 120 and im 5'5. I don't generally lie about my weight. I would however look ridiculous if I weighed 135.

BriLee BriLee

Grace, it's not pound per pound it's that a cubic inch of muscle weighs more then a cubic inch of fat. If your statement is true then saying a pound of feathers weigh the the same as a pound of bricks so bricks aren't heavier when in fact it takes a lot more feathers to make that pound then bricks.

Kelmo... Kelmom1228

Why lie? Really. I'm 5'3" and currently weigh around 110-115, but I've been as high as 165 (the day I gave birth to my daughter) and as low as 100 (stress from divorce). People generally will know when you're lying, and it just makes you look insecure. Weight is only a number, people! Why don't we focus more on trying to be healthier and making better food choices?

Kaila... KailaCheyenne

I'm 5'8" and I weigh 173. My heaviest was 206 and I'm in the process of losing weight. I will jump for joy the day says 150, although my goal is 140. My body frame is a bit larger and I carry my weight well, so people usually think I'm 160ish right now. I don't lie about it anymore but I used to. Who cares what I weigh? If that makes someone like me less because I'm fat, so be it. They can kiss my fat ass when I walk away from them.

icegi... icegirl11

I lie to friends and family because I don't know why they care or need to know how much I weigh. My fiance has never asked me but I wouldn't tell him either. It isn't something I share with the world. My license has my weight from over 6 years ago and it's way off! But I don't know how you lie to your doctor! Whenever I go to the doctors I get weighed, no way to lie when your on the scale lol! 

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