Demi Moore's Breakdown Should Make All Women Nervous


demi mooreIs it just me or does Demi Moore's hospitalization not really come as that big of a surprise? Hasn't everyone else seen just how emaciated and SICK the actress has been looking for the past few months? The latest info on the former Mrs. Kutcher's scary incident: She had a seizure Monday night and is being treated for anorexia, among other substance abuse issues, according to Awful! But obviously, there's a lot more going on here behind-the-scenes, and I'm not just talking about the divorce ... There's also the mental and emotional toll of the divorce and whatever else is going on in Demi's life. Just look at what her rep said: "Because of the stresses in her life right now, Demi has chosen to seek professional assistance to treat her exhaustion and improve her overall health."

Why is it so hard for us to buy that exhaustion and stress play such a huge role in a breakdown like this?

Why did we automatically assume drugs or alcohol were the only bad guys, and figure she'll be a-okay after a stint at the Betty Ford Clinic?

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It really is a testament to what a workaholic, go-go-go society we are. We feel as though we have to power through life, even when it gets hard, or else ... we're just not good enough. Most women feel like they have to be Superwoman; I wouldn't be surprised if someone like Demi who is in the public eye -- especially for something as upsetting as a high-profile divorce -- feels even more pressure to seem perfect and as though she has all her ducks in a row. That kind of pressure goes hand-in-hand with a disorder like anorexia. But it can also be totally toxic to anyone's well-being.

Even when substance abuse is a piece of the puzzle, we shouldn't be underestimating the power of exhaustion and stress to contribute to that kind of behavior. Any good health practitioner will attest to the fact that extreme stress can manifest in many negative ways mentally and physiologically. It can trigger depression, tooth pain (ever grind your teeth in your sleep when you're terribly stressed?), scary weight loss (ahem, just LOOK at Demi!), weight gain, migraines, etc. Stress is an epidemic in this country, affecting women especially. And the more we refuse to deal with it, the worse it's going to get, and we're only going to see a rise in breakdowns like Demi's and Heather Locklear's.

Maybe we refuse to acknowledge it or continue to minimize it because there's no magic pill for stress. The "fix" is extremely individualized -- for me, it might be doing some yoga and meditation, while for you, it could be learning to say "No" more often. Hopefully, Demi figures out what her healthiest fix is and finds inner peace. She deserves it. We all do.

Do you think we tend to minimize the effects of stress? How has stress affected your own health?


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godde... goddess99

This news is sad to hear.

Stress has payed a part in my high blood pressure.

Saphi... SaphiraJFire

stress causes so many problems even makes it near impossible to conceive.

nonmember avatar HS

Maybe her issues are the reason Ashton started stepping out on her. Because he was the cheater he's the one being demonized but we don't know what he was dealing with @ home with Demi and her issues. Especially substance abuse.

Kwiat2 Kwiat2

As if that's an excuse? You don't just step out on your spouse when they are having problems, you're supposed the help them through it.

allie... alliesmom112

Stress causes all kinds of problems and it is definitely overlooked and minimized

nonmember avatar HS

No sh*t kiawat. But her "nervous breakdown" sure gives a whole new perspective to their homelife. She was stressed out and her way of coping was substances. He was stressed out and his way of coping was females his own age lol. It's not entirely fair to put all the blame on his actions when they were both clearly going through some things. Most normal marriages would get throught it but this wasn't a normal marriage. So ur feel good thought process of sticking by ur mate doesn't apply on this instance *cough* seal and heidi *cough* See what I mean, it's Hollywood baby!

twoki... twokidsrme

Look, I get that exhaustion and stress can wreak havoc in one's life. However, normal people don't check themselves into rehab or a treatment facility simply for exhaustion. It goes deeper than that. If that were the case, then many of us hard working mothers (who have a baby on one hip crying, a teenager who stays pissed at the world for reasons even SHE doesn't understand on the other side, demanding jobs, spouses, sleep deprivation, household duties, financial issues, volunteer work, etc. etc. etc.) would ALL be checked into rehab for exhaustion. I'm exhausted on a daily basis. And stressed. And I experience all of the above while battling a disease that nearly took my life. So yeah. I'm exhausted. I'm stressed. And I feel HORRIBLE for her. I do. Divorce is like a disease in and of itself. But don't tell me she's so frail and sickly looking because she's "exhausted." You can put your boots in the oven, but that doesn't make 'em biscuits. There's more here than being overworked, overtired, and overstressed. However, to be fair (and because I now feel like a mean girl), I also don't blame her for not wanting to share her true demons with the world and using exhaustion as an excuse. Really, she doesn't owe anyone an explanation as to what is really going on. Whatever it is she is facing, I pray she overcomes it and comes out the other side healthier and stronger than ever.

bills... billsfan1104

Anoerexia just doesnt happy in a couple of month. I feel bad for her. She must of been really in love with Ashton and this has just devastated her. I hope she gets the help and comes out of this stronger

MamaB... MamaBear2cubs

Stress is awful.I struggle with it daily.

nonmember avatar Angi

There are such things as psychosomatic seizures. Just as hypochondria and fibromialgia are physical reactions your body has when the storm in your mind becomes more than it can handle. I know I just committed a terrible sin by saying hypochondria is real and fybromialgia is a psychomatic disorder caused by an overload of grief, depression and terrible pressures to just buck up and get over it when something bad happens to you. My mother lost her whole world in the past 2 years when her husband of 24 years left her for another (younger) woman after spending her large inheritance and leaving her in a home waiting to be foreclosed on. 2 months ago she went into 10 minute seizure while showing her home to prospective buyers. The doctors said it was caused by all the pressure she was under. It is possible to have a seizure brought on by something other than drugs or a bodily ailment. So maybe "exhaustion" means nothing more than ones inability to deal any longer with all the pressure they are under. Doesn't matter if it seems like her life should be perfect, it's not.

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