The story of the fishing boat captain who committed suicide in the Gulf last week had me near tears.
According to the reports, Allen Kruse had captained boats on the Gulf for 26 years, and he'd managed to turn his into one of those that BP has dubbed "vessels of opportunity."
In other words -- he still had a job of sorts despite the oil spill.
But facing such devastation both to the water he loved and life as he knew it, he took his own life on his boat.
It's too late to help Kruse, but his death can be an eye-opener for us to look at the guys in our lives.
Kruse's family say he showed no signs.
He wasn't on medication for depression. He wasn't talking about suicide.
And he had no history of mental illness.
This is where men and women differ on a general level. Men are significantly more likely to take their own lives than women: Statistics from 2001 show 24,672 males committed suicide compared to just 5,950 women.
Men are also traditionally more close-mouthed about their symptoms, perhaps because of still rampant societal standards for the "strong" male vs. the "emotional" female.
So is it any wonder diagnoses of depression in women are about double those in men? It doesn't mean it's not there; it means it's often closeted.
One trigger point that you can watch out for: Studies have found men are significantly more prone to anger attacks than women, which can be a sign of a mood disorder. Beware of a dip in impulse control and symptomatic substance intake and hyperactive behavior -- all signs, according to the experts, of depression in men.
Do you suspect your guy is depressed?
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