Photo by Jennie CanzoneriI'm down to 156 pounds this week, for a total loss of 22 pounds. I'm nearly halfway to my goal of 130 pounds. And now that the numbers portion of this fun weekly weight-loss calendar is behind us, let's talk about totally inappropriate weight comments!
I'm not sure why, but some people think they can say whatever they feel like saying when it comes to your weight. Especially when it comes to your weight during and after pregnancy. It's like an opinion free-for-all!
I gained a fairly normal 36 pounds when I was pregnant (the picture above is from my pregnancy pictures when I was 6 months pregnant), but starting from the moment I saw that second line, you'd be stunned the kinds of things I heard. I hope we all know what not to say to a pregnant woman about her weight (example: never ask if she's sure there's only one in there), but after you have that adorable bundle of joy, there are still things you shouldn't have to hear.
New moms have it tough, and I truly think you should give them all some slack about their weight-loss that first year. Or at least until their child is sleeping 12 straight hours.
But here are 5 specific things you should never, ever say unless you want to bear the brunt of a new mom's wrath:
1. "You still look pregnant!" I don't know why this would seem like a good thing for anyone to say, but I've heard it, my friends have heard it, so people are clearly saying it. Don't be one of those people!
2. "What are you doing to lose the baby weight?" As a somewhat new mom, this was just a punch in the gut. I was trying to stay awake in staff meetings and keep the dishes from overtaking the house. The thought of cutting carbs and taking a jog around the block on top of all that was just too much for me to think of.
3. "You can't eat like you're pregnant anymore!" It's not like new moms don't know this, but, trust me, new moms need cake, too.
4. "Just breastfeed, and you won't have to worry about it." This is true for a lot of women, but it's also not true for plenty of women. Also, some women can't breastfeed or choose not to for very valid reasons. You just can't know what someone's situation is, so it's best not to assume.
5. "How much weight have you lost since having the baby?" Unless the new mom is offering the answer before you ask the question, it's best not to put her on the spot like this.
It took me over a year to lose the baby weight because I needed to get to a really good place before I could find the motivation. And, you know, that's OK. That worked best for me. I would have enjoyed my new baby's first year a lot more if I hadn't let everyone else's weight-loss opinions get inside my head. It would have helped even more, though, if people's opinions were never said to me in the first place.