Mom Nails What a Real 'Knight in Shining Armor' Looks Like After Having Kids

Husband walking into grocery store
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There are certain things you learn once you become a parent that are simply invaluable. Not just lifesaving parenting hacks that you share with your fellow mom friends, but changes in your priorities and outlook on life that you wish you had known when you were younger. Since getting married and having kids, one mom learned what a real "prince charming" looks like -- and it has nothing to do with the handsome young man from fairy tales that many girls think they should be searching for.


"Listen up young ones," writer Amy Betters-Midtvedt of the blog Hiding in the Closet with Coffee wrote on Facebook. "This is what your knight in shining armor looks like when you are in your 40s."

Husband walking into grocery store
Hiding in the Closet with Coffee/Facebook

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The candid photo showcases her husband, Todd, walking into the grocery store to save Amy and her cart of groceries when she couldn't find her wallet. "Not sure you can tell, but he's smiling at me. Yup ... he had to leave work and he is smiling," she wrote. "His only words of admonishment were, 'You're not supposed to be grocery shopping, I said I'd go this week.'"

Instead of being frustrated that his spouse made him leave work because she was "irresponsible" and needed him to come and save the day, he just felt bad that she was in the process of doing a chore for him. "Seriously," Amy wrote. "Young people, this is what love looks like when you're old and it's ridiculous how awesome it is."

In Amy and Todd's house, love isn't about the grand (and expensive) gestures or the Disney magic. "Love also looks like me coming downstairs to a full pot of coffee every morning because coffee is love. Love looks like all the lunches being made already so I can enjoy that aforementioned cup of coffee," she wrote. "Love looks like someone washing the dishes while his wife catches up on This Is Us while plopped on the couch not helping at all."

Love also looks like Dad patiently working on homework or running to the store when the family is out of milk to make Mom's morning with the kids easier. "And you guys, there were signs it would be this way, so I have tips for you," she wrote. "In college, this love looked like boyfriend Todd running to the store for a danish I was craving or watching me and my friends on the dance floor long after he wanted to leave the bar or him being known across campus by the flower backpack he was carrying which of course was mine. Young people, listen."

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Amy wants the young generation to realize that it's not about the big promposals or the way guys ask you to homecoming that makes for a swoon-worthy partner. "That isn't the stuff that lasts, and let's be honest ... moms are totally helping them with those things," she wrote. "Watch how he treats you when Instagram isn't looking. That is where the signs are."

The guy who will carry your flowered backpack in public because it's too heavy turns into the husband who bails you out at the grocery store with just a smile and a hug. "And that, my friends, is true love," Amy wrote.

It's time for many to realize that not all heroes wear capes and not all knights wear shining armor.

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