Moms Oversharing on Facebook Might Save Babies' Lives!

I admit I'm one of those people who doesn't exactly thrill to the sight of yet another baby update in my Facebook newsfeed. Did I need to know the baby has been crying for eight hours straight? No. Did I need to know the baby projectile vomits better than the possessed girl in The Exorcist? Nope. But nor do I need to see pictures of people's lunch in my feed. Or their endless eCards. Or their endless pictures of animals -- though I love animals. I'm a big believer in the idea of everything in moderation. If you've already done three baby posts that day, maybe, you know, give it a rest.

However, I've never been one to snark on it either. I'm sure there are people who just plain sick of seeing my blog posts in their feeds. Or my cat's-up-for-adoption shares. You can't please all of the Facebook friends all of the time. But one new mother has cleared it up even more for me why moms feel compelled to overshare on Facebook. And it makes total sense. And could save babies' lives!

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Lyz Lenz writes in Mommyish about her newfound compulsion to overshare everything about her newborn daughter. She says:

Before I had my daughter, I was determined not to flood my social media streams with annoying pictures, posts and updates about her. I read all the sites that made fun of parents who do annoying things like live tweet contractions and describe dilated cervices on Facebook.

I would be cooler. I had single friends. I had professional contacts. I had dignity.

But that dignity quickly went out the window. Within a week, Lyz had posted 50 pics of her daughter. Wow, Lyz, you started off strong. What happened? She explains:

Parenting is a scary and often isolating journey. In those early days, during maternity leave, she and I would spend hours together staring at one another ... So I tweeted and Facebooked.

She says that the "likes" and replies that came in made her feel not so alone. That she had a community, or at least people who felt bad for her. She'd laugh at some of the responses. It was a way of destressing. In a world where mothers actually kill their children, this is a better way of handling stress, no? (Not that Lyz would kill her kid.)

Should your Facebook friends be forced into the role of digital handholder or mommy counselor? No. But they can defriend, block, or take you out of their newsfeed if they don't wanna hear about it. And some probably have.

Lyz says her Facebook buddies often brought her back from "the ledge of crazy." I think that's pretty awesome. Why not turn to FB instead of drugs or alcohol or shaking your baby to death?? I'm so inspired by this essay that I might even forgo my usual "Let's skip quickly over this baby update ..." reaction to a bit of, "You go, mom! Keep those updates about baby shit a comin'!"

Well, maybe I won't go that far.

Do you share everything about your kids on Facebook? Do you think it annoys people?


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