Baby Showers: After the Baby Is Born?


"Sip and See" baby showers are becoming more and more popular among new moms. It's when you have a shower AFTER the baby arrives—that way friends and family can see the new baby while they sip on beverages and nibble on light fare.

New mom hem0036 tells us about having a "Sip and See" when her son was 5 months old...



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Hem0036 had her Sip and See on March 1—three days before her son was 5 months. She kept it small, inviting mostly close friends and family. Hem0036 said that it was basically the same as a traditional baby shower, except her baby was already here, so instead of playing games, they passed him around for all to see. Here's what she had to say about the experience:


CM: Why are you glad you had a Sip and See versus a more traditional shower before the baby is born? 

For us, it was more a matter of convenience. My mom was out of town until late in my pregnancy, and my best friend just couldn't get things together; my mom was going to throw my shower, but time just kind of ran out. 

It was nice because I wasn't super pregnant and didn't have to worry about getting my embarrassing back pains in front of everyone. I didn't have to worry if people would think I was a pig for how much I ate because they just attributed it to needing extra food for breastfeeding. Also, I didn't have to deal with any of the rude comments people sometimes make without thinking, such as, "You look like you are about to pop," or having 20 people ask me my due date, etc. I was able to have fun, be comfortable, AND show off my baby.

Where you ever worried about whether or not it was too late to have a shower after your son was born?

Well, my mom still wanted to throw it, and she didn't seem to think it was too late. Plus, her friend had just thrown one for her daughter and new grandchild who was about the same age as my son, Brandon, when she threw it. Every child should be celebrated. It is a new and precious life.

Many times, especially for first time parents, I think that things are probably so crazy in preparing for the baby—whether it be getting a new house, dealing with a complicated pregnancy, moving, or just going through pregnancy in general, that they just feel that they don't have the time or energy to have a baby shower before the baby gets there. But that doesn't mean they don't want to share their joy or celebrate the baby; and I dont think they should have to add any more stress by celebrating before when they can do it just as easily after. So go for it! Have a Sip 'n' See, show off your bundle of joy.


What did you "sip" at your "Sip and See"?

We did punch, although a lot of times people do tea. My mom made it, and it was some canned juice, a frozen ring of pineapple, and some ginger ale. It was delicious. We also had some turkey salad sandwiches and Jordan almonds—just little finger foods, same as you would have at a baby shower.


Were your invites worded any different than what you would do for a traditional baby shower?

My mom did the invites, but she did show them to me. I think they were actually baby shower invites. It's pretty much the same thing, except instead of the baby being in your belly, he/she is out and showing of his/her skills as a growing infant. My baby was already able to get up on all fours although he couldn't crawl quite yet (he started about 3 days later), and Brandon loved visiting with everyone. He is a very social baby. 


Where there presents?

There were presents, just not off a registry. I had a registry before the baby was born, as we had planned on doing a baby shower. But we never did get around to having one, and by the time we had the Sip and See, I had pretty much everything I needed off my registry. So, while it might have still been up, that information was not given out. Instead, people picked their own gifts—whatever they thought they would like to see him use/wear. I liked it that way because we had everything we really needed, and it gave my friends the chance to do something for him that they thought was special. I got some lullaby CDs, books, clothes, feeding essentials, diapers, and a rain forest soother. And we have used just about everything!


And advice or fun ideas for other moms who want to have their own Sip and See?

Cake, have a cake!  That was the one thing I was looking forward to my whole pregnancy: the baby shower cake (I know, sad huh?). And, I still haven't lost the craving for it as I didn't have one at my Sip and See. No, but in all seriousness, I didn't have a huge turnout for my Sip and See, but I would say play some games, pass around the baby (granted that no one is sick), open presents, get some advice on things you are having trouble with, eat, and just enjoy the time visiting with your friends ('cause if you are like me, that might be the only time you get to see them for the next few months).


Thanks so much to hem0036 for sharing with us! As someone who goes to a lot of baby showers, I've got to admit that I LOVE the idea of a Sip and See. What do you think?

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rkoloms rkoloms

We Jews tend to be very supersitious and would never buy anything for a baby before Baby is born.  Our showers are always after the baby arrives; this gives the parents a chance to see what they really need, and lets the guest of honor make an appearance.

BJoan BJoan

Why not? Sounds good to me....either way! Especially if there were circumstances that prevented the shower beforehand. I think people would love to see the baby!

My2J.... My2J.A.P.s

I think it's a great idea.  Plus that way, you don't have a constant parade of people coming to visit if they know there's a shower coming up.  I probably wouldn't wait 5 months.... maybe about 2-4 weeks.  My mom's friends threw me a shower when my first baby was 2 weeks old.  It was so fantastic. 

melit... melittler

I had a baby shower after my daughter was born. This was 9 years ago. I had the option of having one before she was born, but since we (dh and I) didn't know what we were having we decided to have our shower afterwards.

sk_te... sk_tennyson

We had a meet the baby party with both of ours :)

mommy... mommy.kt.09

I have 1 child, and unintentionally, I had my baby shower after my son was born. It was a wonderful experience. Everyone was able to see him. I would definitely do it again!

comom... comom2twinboys

I had a shower at work before I had the boys and one after. The one at work fell just over a month before the boys were born and because of their uncertain birthdate because of twins my mom's friend waited and she had hers about a month after thery were here. It was a great idea because for some of the ladies it was the only time they got to see the boys.

mommy... mommyoftwo395

I had two with my daughter before she was born.  But with my son I had one after.  I loved it.  I knocked out two birds with one stone.  People were able to come a see my son and have the shower.  It just made less stress for me than with my daughter's showers.

Charb... Charbear76

I think its a great idea! I had 1 shower before my oldest was born and 1 after when she was 6 weeks old. It worked out REALLY well for us because we had been told she would be a boy and were quite surprised to get a girl. So at that 2nd shower it was great to get all those girly things!

lucky... luckyshamrock

We had a meet the baby shower after our daughter was home.  We did it because we adopted and we did not want to have baby stuff waiting for a unknown amount of time.  It allowed everyone to meet our new daughter when the event actually happened.

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