Should Kids Be Allowed to Bring Parents a Beer?


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Here's an interesting Food and Drink Question that's sparked quite a bit of controversy among CafeMoms:

Should children be allowed to bring parents a beer from the fridge?

Most moms commented that they didn't think this was a big deal—as long as kids know alcohol is for adults only and they are old enough to safely handle a glass bottle. One mom even good-naturedly joked that the whole point of having kids is so that they can get things for you!

But other moms had an issue with this situation: They thought it was inappropriate for a child to handle a "grown-up" beverage. Period.

I'm sort of in the middle with respect to my opinion on the matter. I can remember bringing my dad a cold beer from the fridge once in a while, and I don't think it affected me one way or the other. Still, I have to agree with some of the moms' comments: If my husband asked my kid to grab him a beer, I think I would be like, "Seriously? Stop being lazy and just get it yourself!"

What do you think? Do you allow this in your house?

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I think you can teach your children that it is ok  for and adult to drink responsibiliy, and i do agree that parents should not be lazy and get there own beverage, but i dont think that children should think it is bad to touch. because then they are going to be courious about the whole thing.

mommy... mommyflynn5

my answer to this would be "NO"


My parents used to when I was a kid, and I always said no. It was the only thing I could say no to them about. I have NEVER asked my daughter, even when she's offered, and she will NEVER need to do that. It's pure laziness.

gulfc... gulfcoastmom4

No way, both my husband and I drink but I would NEVER ask one of my kids to bring me a beer.

ACsLady ACsLady

My dad doesn't drink beer too often, but sometimes he'd come home after a long, hard day at work and he'd want a beer. He works hard for my family and if he were to ask me to get him a beer, I'd jump at the chance....I'd also offer to get the beer if mom was busy or something. I don't think that all dads/husbands that ask for a beer are just being lazy and I don't think there is a problem with a child getting it for them. I was older of course, so I could open the beer for him and take it to him, but even the younger kids can take him one unopened...

I wait on my husband and serve him out of love and as a sign of my respect for his position and what he does. Same goes for my father and any of my elders. It is my joy to do those things. Sure, they can do it for themselves and if I couldn't they would, but if I can...why not? I don't see it as them being lazy.

flowe... flower_momma

 I agree with DUNCANCLANOF9. I live in the microbrewery capitol of the world, and beer is a huge part of our culture here. My husband is also a home-brewer of gourmet beers. However, I can get off of my heinie and get it myself! The whole concept of parents asking their kids to fetch them a beer brings to mind pictures of a greasy, cruel man in a wife-beater tank top who always smells like alcohol. Thats not what beer is to us! Its something to be enjoyed in moderation with one another after the kids go to bed.

Darkk... Darkkitty

OH puhleeze.  My parents believed that we kids were smart enough to understand an adult beverage from a childs beverage.  This included getting them a beer from the refrigerator when it was requested and passing the wine bottle at the table since my parents sat at opposite ends.  It annoys the crap out of me that some people think kids are these dumb little idiots that have to be coddled and and bubbled at all costs instead of teaching them how to live and make wise decisions.  Also, why is it lazy?   You cook and clean for the kid. It's too much to ask them to bring a beverage for you?  It's actually teaching the kid to be considerate of others.

beach... beachmamaof2

LOL - yeah well I don't drink regularly just sitting around the house; so likely I'm only sending them to fetch my lazy a** a soda at some point in the future; but I was regularly sent to get my dad a beer from the wasn't like he was asking me to open it and drink it for him too! teeheehee  And just to be clear, he wasn't a greasy cruel man in a wife beater; yeah he drank more beer than he should have but he got himself up and went to work everyday to take care of his responsibilites and then enjoyed himself when he was done.  Not the life I reccommend for everyone but I'm not the worse for wear...

RanaA... RanaAurora

It's not lazy.  Kids love helping out. :)  If I ask my husband to get me a soda while he's up, my son will run to the soda and ask us both what we want, and loves "delivering" it.
Now, if your kid doesn't LIKE helping, don't force them, but seriously... sheesh.  What do you have kids for if not to fetch things?  (I'm KIDDING for those who didn't get it!)

I don't see a problem with a child touching a glass bottle, knowing that they can't drink what's inside.

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