Is Dinner a Must for a Wedding Reception?


I'm loving the wedding posts Cafe MicheleZ's doing in Beauty & Style Buzz. So far she's covered Romantic Wedding Themes and Wedding Rings.

All these same lines, I came across this interesting wedding-related dilemma: One anonymous CafeMom is considering not serving dinner at her wedding reception in order to save money. Wondering how her guests will react, she poses the question: Is dinner a must at a wedding reception?


If you are attending a wedding reception, do you expect to be served dinner?

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CafeMoms had lots of great advice for how to save money when planning food for a wedding:

  • breezy2005 and MidnightKarma advised asking family to chip in and help make the food yourself.
  • krazyash023 suggested keeping it simple by serving hors 'devours instead of dinner.
  • According to goatmom4, dinner is a must. But she had the great idea to keep it inexpensive by ordering pizzas or having a potluck. That way the bride and groom can start their marriage off debt-free.

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Zanny Zanny

As a wedding planner, NO.. You do not have to have a meal.


monro... monroesmum

My sister was trying to cut wedding costs by only serving appitizers, but my dad wouldn't hear of it. He wanted meat. we were all for it though.

Lumin... LuminousMom

We did all the hors' devours ourselves. A cheese platter, crackers and breads, hummus and pitas, antipasto (olives and marinated peppers and such..) fruit skewers (balled melons, pineapple and strawberries), tea sandwiches.. there was a greek/mediterranean flare to all of it. We bought the antipasto platter and the cheese platter pre-made from our local caterer because after running costs it was CHEAPER, surprisingly, to buy from them than it was to make our own.

We had no complaints and the food was beautiful.. My one warning, however, is that people ATE like it was dinner, not appetizers.. so be aware if you go with this, people may clean you out. we didnt even get any by the time we got to sit down to eat.

jkrue... jkruehmann

We needed to save $ on our wedding but we had a ton of people on the invite list. We had a cake and punch reception at the church after the ceremony and dinner later on with our closest family and friends.

Another great way to save $ is to buy the smallest tiered cake available, then order sheet cakes. You will still have a pretty display cake but you will save literally thousands of dollars

baby1... baby1love

Well for me it depends if it's around lunch time I kinda expect a light pick of food , if it's dinner time then I kinda expect a meal . Maybe that's how I was raised because in my family that's how it is .

Lanasmom Lanasmom

At our wedding, we were cutting costs, since we payed for most of it ourselves--So we had punch and cake--that was it. No one complained. --We had it early though, before supper.

fmchavez fmchavez

Lol, we had 28 people at my wedding, we just did finger foods and sandwiches.

avasm... avasmom1606

we just had finger foods, fruit, veggie and cheese and cracker tray, little ham sandwiches, chicken wings, meatballs, pigs in a blanket, chips and dip, and of course CAKE. but my wedding reception was around 2:30 so ppl should have already eaten their lunch.


Norah... NorahSethsMommy

Depends on the time of day and type of wedding. I dont think a meal is a must.

Lindalu2 Lindalu2

No. Its not necessary. We had cake and little sandwiches,coffee,tea and punch. We all had a wonderful time. Couldn't afford a dance. Besides,its the marriage itself that is more important,not the wedding,etc. Anyone who complains about your wedding not being splashy enough, expensive enough, is a jerk. LOL.

Just have fun and enjoy the time with friends and family. ANd each other.

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