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Diner Leaves the Cruelest 'Tip' for Overweight Waitress

by Adriana Velez on November 20, 2012 at 2:45 PM

applebees receiptIt's time for yet another exciting episode of: Horrible Restaurant Bills Posted to Reddit. And this week's Horrible Restaurant Bill really hurts. An Applebee's diner supposedly scrawled "STOP EATING BITCH!" on the tip line of his/her receipt. Please tell me this one's a fake! 

I guess this is what people are doing now? Leaving rude messages on their receipts, I mean. I can't remember this being a "thing" before the past year or so. And now, it's like the rudeness of the Internet has spread and made anyone with a pen, a piece of paper, and a captive audience of one (the server) feel entitled to spread a little more hate IRL.

Every time I see this happen, I just can't believe people can be so bold. I mean -- if you use a credit card (and this guy did), your NAME is right there! So you're not even anonymous unless someone is decent enough to cross out your name before posting on Reddit (I'm guessing there's a rule or something about that). But couldn't the restaurant maybe finagle a way to over-charge you on that receipt as retaliation? Of course, you'd be within your rights to dispute the charges, but it would be a big, embarrassing pain in the ass. I'm not saying restaurants should do that. I'm just saying.

And mocking people for their weight, that's just cruel. You never know how sensitive people feel about that. Sure, there are overweight people with the confidence to take it, folks who just don't care. But for every one of those bold ones, there's another person who hurts every time someone points out to them what THEY ALREADY KNOW, THANK YOU VERY MUCH.

I'd also like to point out that this directive is pretty rich coming from a single diner who spent $30 at Applebee's. True, the baby back ribs there will set you back for $23, but most of the entrees are more around $15. Did the diner slurp back a sugar-laden cola as well, or a carb-filled beer? What about one of the decadent desserts? Maybe the diner was just super-paranoid and afraid the waitress would steal his food? Or, I don't know ... maybe this was a note to himself?

Anyway, Huffington Post called the restaurant to get confirmation but their messages went un-returned. So who knows -- maybe it's not real. They say maybe it's better to leave a mean message on a receipt than to say it in person. I think, if you wouldn't say it in person, don't write it on a receipt either! What's that saying again? If you can't say anything nice in the tip blank, don't say anything at all ...

Do you think it's ever all right to leave a rude message on a restaurant bill?


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Filed Under: chain restaurants, eating out, restaurants


  • linzemae


    November 20, 2012 at 2:54 PM
    Oh wow
  • Vegeta


    November 20, 2012 at 2:58 PM
    Going completely out of your way to insult someone is pretty damn ballsy. If they gave you bad service then don't leave a (monetary) tip. But unless it's something nice, don't write anything aussie from the tip total and signature. It would be even ballsier if he/she came back and expected to be served. What a bag of dicks.
  • kaerae
    -- Nonmember comment from


    November 20, 2012 at 3:16 PM
    As someone who's been mocked for being underweight, and hearing "Jesus, eat a sandwich" from everyone from medical professionals to clients, I don't think being mocked for being heavy is any different. There are assholes in the world, and if you work in the service industry as the woman in the story does, you're going to meet more than your share of them. We all have to deal with jerks, you write it off, move on. There is no need for this to become a major internet story, servers get stiffed my asshole customers every day for every reason. Do you really think this only happens to obese people?
  • Zande...


    November 20, 2012 at 4:19 PM

    I saw the recipt and immediatly thought the person could see their server eating while they were working instead of waiting (seen bartenders and servers do this before).

  • Marce...
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    Marcella Oglesby

    November 20, 2012 at 5:31 PM

    As a bartender I can tell you that most places don't give staff breaks or a lunch, so we are going to eat while working.

  • Jespren


    November 20, 2012 at 6:06 PM
    I'm with ZanderBomb, this is horribly inappropriate but I didn't read it as an insult to her weight, but rather a (jerk) complaining that they got lousy service while their waitess could be seen eating 'on the job'.
  • gina
    -- Nonmember comment from


    November 20, 2012 at 8:01 PM
    I waited tables for 3+ years. The restaurant I worked for didn't give us lunch breaks. I ate when I could. Lots of restaurants are like that. Just sayin'.
  • Cesar...
    -- Facebook comment from

    Cesar Romarez

    November 21, 2012 at 11:04 AM
    Isn't the worst part of this the misogynist 'bitch'?
  • Jess
    -- Nonmember comment from


    November 21, 2012 at 11:06 AM
    Uh, at my moms old job at Denny's, servers would have to eat in between serving drinks and food, especially on busy nights and I'm sure at Applebee's its busy quite a lot. It's not being lazy or whatever, it's the only way they get food in. (that's not to say SOME servers don't ignore their customers for their own food because I'm sure there are some but in general, it's just what they have to do.)
  • Amber...
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    Amber Reece

    November 21, 2012 at 11:16 AM
    I have been one of those people who leave a list of "tips" on being a better waitress. I do not insult, but when the waitress/waiter walks past the table and drops your ticket and that is the first time you have seen her/him since you ORDERED they need to know why they are not getting a tip~ I worked in the restaurant business and took good care of my diners and was always rewarded with a nice tip. If you can't take care of your business you need to find a different field to work in! I would never criticize someone for their weight (even when I was tiny) and that be the only reason for no tip! If you give me good service you can expect about a 30%-40% tip because I was once in your shoes!
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