OMG! None of the Other Moms are on Facebook!


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Teens always think their moms are uncool. It's one of the laws of nature as children grow up and get their own lives. My teen daughter thought I was the best mom ever until she hit 13. Overnight, I became a really bad mother.

My latest bad mom moment (#842) is because of Facebook.

My teen daughter is mortified because I am the only mom on earth using according to my teen and her friends. My teen quit using Facebook because:

Like, it was so awful having my mom on Facebook. None of the OTHER moms are on Facebook. You know?

I only wish I could show you Grace's eye-rolling as she informs me about my Facebook is priceless!  I do sympathize with my daughter, I really do. I realize I'm not exactly the June Cleaver or Carol Brady type of mother! My personal blog and my book are about parenting humor. I keep my girls privacy and their lives in mind in all the writing I do.

As if things couldn't get any worse, my daughter's friends are afraid I might actually friend them on Facebook! As geeky as I am, I know that a mom friend-ing a teen would be the kiss of death!

However, I do remind the girls that all information and pictures they put into a Facebook profile is a public record, forever and ever. My motherly nagging to my daughter's friends only adds more fuel to the bad mother fire!

I know even Heidi Klum and Seal will be lame to their kids someday.  But try telling that to a teen.

Am I the only mother on Earth using Facebook? Please tell me that my daughter and her friends are wrong. Have you had a bad mom moment because of Facebook or another online community?

Any and all advice is welcomed by me, the worst mother in the world.

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roach... roachiesmom

I had invitations from some of my kids' friends before I even got a FB page.  When I finally got the page and my children added me (they were my first two friends there) they sent some of their other friends to me as recommendations.   Since then, they have added several of my friends, too.  It's sort of a safety net because not only do my friends sometimes catch things I may miss that I should be alerted to, but also if my internet is down or some emergency comes up, I know my kids can also easily get in touch with people.  I like the level of trust involved.

nonmember avatar Jane

Oh yes, I am on Facebook. And I've been trying for over a year to convince my sixteen-year-old daughter to get an account!

sandif sandif

I'm on FB and so are many of the moms I know. I have two teenage daughters and they get mad that I'm always looking at their and their friend's pictures. Hey, they show up on my page and they're public - aren't I supposed to look at the pictures people post!? Of course I am. I'll keep looking no matter how much it irritates my girls!

Wendi... WendiWatson

I have a facebook profile. It is great. I have a 2 month old daughter. it is great to stay in touch with family.

frogg... froggyt11

my mom AND grandma are on facebook, and have friended all the kids/grandkids. i love it, there is no easier way to ask how tto cook a meatloaf (again)

Sarah-Jane Klemis Was Valkeith

I have a FB profile and so does my son, I had it first and I'm not removing it however uncool he thinks it maybe :P Only joking currently (although how long this will last I don't know) I'm fortunate that he tells me I am a cool mum (its nice to know I get the seal of approval) and he likes the fact that we often comment on each other's status and make fun of the pictures that we put up but then again he convinced his nan that she needed a FB page and then promptly created her one so they could say 'hi' across the waters :)

Kathy Morelli

Hey there - I just wanted to join the conversation. I think that parents need to parent seamlessly, whether it be online or IRL. So, a presence on Facebook is a good idea in order to stay in touch with what your teen is up to....take care, Kathy

Cassondra Monique

My daughter is too young for FB but my cousin's daughter is 16 and she's had a FB acct since she was 14. She has to make sure one of us knows her password and we monitor her acct. Her mom is her friend on there, as is my mom, and me. Her friends don't think its uncool and several of them have friended us as well (we are a close-knit family). I don't see a problem with parents NOT friending their kids if it really bugs the kids, however, you SHOULD have their password at all times and monitor it closely.

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acrog... acrogodess

I have Facebook. I'm not an uncool mom yet, but that's because at 9 & 7 my ds and dd think I'm the best mom ever for now. They want me to set them up their own page, but they don't whine when I tell them they have to wait.

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