Joan Rivers' Daughter Melissa Faces Worst Decision a Child Has to Make

Joan RiversJoan Rivers is still in dire condition at a Manhattan hospital after suffering cardiac arrest during a reported vocal chord procedure at an outpatient clinic. Rivers is reportedly on life support and her daughter, Melissa, will have to make the agonizing decision whether to keep her on life support or take her off. One source says she will likely make the decision this weekend.

The Fashion Police host is reportedly kept in full hair and makeup in a private suite at the hospital and is surrounded by flowers and being "kept comfortable," says Melissa.

A source told RadarOnline:

[Melissa] could be facing a very tough decision very soon: whether or not to take her mother off of life support. Everyone is hoping for a miracle, but it isn’t looking likely.

What a terribly challenging decision to have to make for a loved one. It's possible that Joan and Melissa had discussed what to do in a situation like this, but most people don't get into excruciating detail about it because it's extremely difficult, sometimes impossible, to determine with accuracy how someone is going to be after coming out of such trauma to the brain.

Melissa will be forced to not only try to figure out what Joan would have wanted, but what her future condition will be. Joan has always been an extremely hard worker and, even at 81, worked harder and longer days than most people half her age. It's hard to imagine she would want a life of being dependent on others or of lying around not being able to move or talk or continue with her career. (For an inside look at just how hard Joan works, check out her documentary A Piece of Work.)

Melissa would know more than anyone what Joan would want, but even she is probably having some moments of doubt.

Of course, if there is no chance at all for any kind of recovery, then Melissa's decision is made somewhat easier, though nothing about this situation is easy.

No matter how you feel about Joan's blunt humor, she was a trailblazer for women in comedy. Her career has simply been amazing, and she's managed to keep it going for so long. This is not an elderly woman who sat knitting all day -- she was vibrant, busy, her unapologetic wit hadn't been dulled one iota in her advanced years. She was still living a very full, fabulous life. How tragic to have that suddenly cut short.

Poor Melissa. Poor Joan. Let's all hope for a miracle. If anything, Joan is a fighter.

Update: Joan Rivers has died. Rest in peace, Joan.


Image via joanrivers/Instagram



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nonmember avatar ELAINE

I had to make the choice..THE GUILT NEVER LEAVES YOU

nonmember avatar justine

Let us all 'PRAY' for a blessed miracle; and instead of 'crossing our fingers', let us PRAY that God will bless Joan with a second chance at life.

Floyd Currey

I was required to make this choice once, (as a 21 year old son). I made the wrong choice. I elected life support. And as predicted by the Doctor my father lived for 18 years as a vegable, and outlived all his caretakers.
And now in my 84 th year, I question myself, in theese circumstanses. Are we prolanging death or are we prolonging life? I repectly share you this.

Tonya Sharp

It was just reported that Joan just passed away. So sad to hear. Prayers to the family.

nonmember avatar dk

It's a difficult dexision, but following your loved one's wishes brings peace. RIP, Joan Rivers. You made watching Fashion Polive so enjoyable.

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KimBuddy Nance Jr.

this is all such a very sad story. me and my mom always watched her and melissa's show, it w as so funny and made u feel happy, not sad. praying she is in gods hands, to help with this family, in time of need, god bless the whole family, kim

Jenn Smith

Unfortunately, sometimes these decisions arise. My mother has been in the medical profession for years and years. I have also been in the medical field for years. What I have learned, have this conversation BEFORE anything tragic happens. Have a living will set up with the end of life provisions. My mother told me a long time ago to pull the plug. While it is a difficult decision to make no matter what, knowing what the person wants will make it a little easier.

proud... proudmommy690

Time to update this article. She passed away today.

missy... missybest

As my reply, Joan Rivers has died.  My sympathies to her family.

I read somewhere that they will sue the in-patient clinuic where she had the throat surgery.  I hope there was no impropriety, but rather surprised.  I mean, Joan Rivers was 81 years old.  Surgery is dangerous for anyone - in particular an 81 year old.  Sue them?  Unless they did something really out of line, an 81 year can go into respiratory and heart failure.  She lived a long and productive life.  Be happy about that!

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